i came from a home in which mum encouraged talking about why, dad beat the crap out of me if i dared - so i still struggle with the confidence to step up sometimes (hence the issues with DH's first surgery - even though i felt something was wrong, i didn't have the confidence to fight for him) - i don't want that for DD (for any kid). DD has been blessed (cursed?) with the same inquisitive nature that i had/have, so we're trying to encourage her question but also about limits to questioning and when she has to simply accept that, even if she doesnt agree, she has to comply for safety etc

I know this is totally OT from the OP, but i think it's an interesting and worthwhile conversation to be having - so sorry OP if this wasn't the way you thought this thread would go!