You can bang on about this all you like if it helps you work through it - the only problem I have is you referring to any of the reasons as selfish. Grrrr!

I've said for years that if someone left a baby on my doorstep I'd probably never call the authorities lol, but I can't just can't go through the long months of pregnancy and the fears that I felt. I pop them out easy as pie but for my it's the preg that drags me and I just can't do that to myself again. How could that be selfish?

In any case one thing I have to offer is - I found a school for my children that I never knew existed and it costs. I can't think of having them educated any other way and it's really NOW that I know I have def done the right thing. I could not have done this with another baby. It can be a long term thing, not just now/baby/toddler years when they don't really need that much IYKWIM?