Aww Tiff , I'm so sorry your DH wouldn't let you find out the gender of your bub and I'm so sorry he wouldn't support your request for an epi during your labour .

I would be feeling upset if I were in the same situation too. I think your DH needs a good talking to by someone, it is completely unfair to take away your rights and wishes like that. I think it's a fair compromise that you find out this bub's gender seeing as you didn't find out last time. Maybe you need to sit down for a really big chat about how his actions make you feel. Tell him what it would mean to you if you could find out the gender and tell him how it affected you that you didn't feel supported during labour. Say things like "When you said xyz, it made me feel like this...", rather than "You made me feel...", etc.

Big hugs lovely . There is one thing I know for sure about your bub, he or she will be GORGEOUS!