Does Being Positive Make A Difference?

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I have to agree with everyone else - I suspect your clairvoyant has never been infertile/subfertile. No one who has experienced having to struggle to conceive would dream of making the woman involved feel even more pain, guilt or hurt than she's already going through. You'd think that being psychic, she'd have 'picked up' on that.

She needs a lesson in sensitivity. Or a change of job. She's obviously not terribly compassionate, and isn't suited to working with people.

Okay as for feeling 'positive' to make ensure that you conceive, I have to admit I think that's a crock. Speak to women who have had 5, 6 or even more cycles, enduring years of disappointment. If they can possibly summon up positivity at that point, they must have a personal fortitude that I obviously lack. Most women at that point are jaded and negative, yet they do fall pregnant. Yes, despite their lack of 'positivity'. :P

I know when I finally fell pregnant, I was probably the most negative I had been in my entire journey. But that didn't stop me from falling pregnant. And why should it? Why should obsessing and living and breathing TTC prevent you from falling pregnant? How would it prevent you from falling pregnant?

I honestly believe this whole 'you're preventing it from working by obsessing too much' is a sneaky way for people to make the failure to conceive the woman's fault yet again, as if she's not already doing enough to overcome her difficulties. How do you not obsess about something that colours your whole life? Are they insane? How do you NOT obsess about something this significant?

I personally think 'people who don't know what it feels like should keep their insensitive opnions to themselves' works far better for me!