I have suffered m/c (3) and been TTCing since I was 28 (now I'm 41) and do understand where you are coming from. I did however go out and buy a little yellow outfit for the baby after my first scan at 6wks 5 days. It somehow helped. I hadn't got that far before. It somehow made it feel more real. If you can, make yourself go out there and get something, anything, just a little something for the bub, it may make it seem a little more real, like it did for me.

I haven't managed to buy anything else and will not be able to do so until I have the nuchal scan done and see all is OK. I ended up in tears at a market on Sunday as I wanted to buy a bunny rug but I just couldn't do it. My lovely MIL went back and bought it for me. My DF tells me to just buy stuff but I'm finding it incredibly difficult to do.

Losing a twin is the same loss you feel for having a miscarriage so please do not discount your feelings. Make sure you both deal with that loss. Men don't always handle a loss well. My DF & I ended up splitting after our second loss this year as he did not handle it well and didn't discuss it with me. Try and get him to talk about it, because I'm sure he is hurting deep down.