Hoobley, your sig says you have a 36 y.o DP?
It's a LIE! He's 37...

We don't live together. So although i'm not "single" i'm still parenting singly as he works long hours and is only physically here once a week (actually we have just, in the last 2 weeks, begun seeing each other overnight once midweek when DD is here). I have known him since 2001 and we've been together since August 2006 but for the first year he never (literally twice in that time) saw DD, and then i gradually began letting them spend time together. I wanted to be EXTREMELY sure of him before i let him get involved in her life. So for the first year i saw him from 9pm-1pm overnight once a week. Then once DD got bigger she stayed at her dad's longer and i saw him 9pm-6pm. Then i began letting him see her him so he was here more like 9pm-9pm. It's been very slow and steady and frustrating at times but we felt it was the best approach given our lifestyles etc.

This winter we're buying a house together and then i will no longer be a single parent but a blended family...

Sorry for hi-jacking Samm!

Bx