Hi Jessey - if he's not helping then there doesn't seem much point in staying. BUT if he is willing to help and if you think that might be the best solution in the short-term then you need to ASK for help when you need it.

I took me AGES to do this because I kind of wanted to do everything. And I thought that DP should be psychic or at least see that I was changing a nappy and offer to step in.

Men don't do this. What you need to do is to take DD to him and ask him to burp/change her. Yes, even if he's on the computer or with his friends. If he refuses, well he's obviously not going to be much help.

If you need to sleep, you take the baby to him. Even if he's asleep.

As I said, it took me months and months to feel comfortable doing this but if you want his help you have to be more assertive.

I'm not saying that you SHOULD stay, by the way, just ideas on how you can get him to help more if you do decide to stay in the short-term before you decide what you're going to do in the long-term.

Your sister's a shocker by the way.