lorelle - thats a great Dora cake idea!! Thank goodness for Google Yeah I looked up a heap of dinosaur cake pics and have a plan in place. I will bake 2 round cakes. Cut one cake in half and stand the 2 halves up against each other flat side down, this will be the body. With the other cake I will cut a cresent which will be the tail, then I will fashion a neck and head out of the rest of the cake. THe legs will be cupcakes cut in half. I have been told by Archie tonight that it will be a blue dinosaur with blue spots, his wish shall be my command!

Mayaness - your post was full of wisdom, thankyou, it made so much sense to me. I read a part of it out to DH (about how hw will end up alone without me if he doesnt get help), his response, "thats all well and good, but since I talked about that stuff today I have felt like absolute crap" In other words, he does not intend on seeinga counsellor.

Stuff him! His loss, and in all honesty, probably my gain

I just feel so silly for giving DS a father who is ot a fantastic role model

Oh, listen to me blaming myself again, the cycle continues, at least I can see it now I guess.

BTW, I realised today that i have access to the private single forum.