Trying to Conceive after Late Loss, Still Birth or Recurrent Miscarriage April '08

[Simba]

hi all havent been on for a while so will take me a bit to catch up on what's been happening.

Rozzie - sorry for the loss of your son your heart must be just breaking right now. sending you big hugs. welcome to thread i am so glad for you that you have found your way here as it will give so much support. i took a few months to find my way here but as soon as i did it helped so much. obviously i wish we all didnt have a reason to be here but ykwim. feel free to share as much or as little as you like we are all here to listen and be there for you. as you were talking about reasons my little lani had a knot in her cord. she lived for 16 days but her brain had been damaged from the lack of oxygen so she couldnt survive. so for me i have a reason and yes maybe it does help sometimes to know that it wasnt anything i or anyone could have done but at the end of the day it doesnt make it easier, she still isnt here. so for you i hope that you get the answers you need but dont beat yourself up i am sure that you did all that you could do. take care of yourself and thinking of you.

jen - of course you are welcome here. yes we have all had different journeys to get here but we all feel the same pain and also the love for our children that we lost. i really hope your TTC journey is a short one.

jo - congrats on reaching 9 weeks! glad too that you special day to remember jack turned out so well even with the cold melb weather and the goose (maybe that was jack trying to make you giggle)!

katie - no i didnt end up going to the s&k meeting. i had thought about it but i ended up having a late meeting at work and have been really tired lately so decided to give it a miss. i still might go to another one down the track though. but will definitely be going to the frances perry one in a few weeks. good luck with your weekly scans - although they will be a little tough i hope they also give you the reasurance that you need to keep going each day.

Hammi - hope your visit to the ob goes ok.

Barbara - hope that you are going ok. i will check the other thread to see if you have posted in there.

TM - sorry to hear that AF has arrived - what a tough journey you are having. sending you big hugs.

As for me - all is going well. i will be having my 12 week scan next tuesday so counting down the days for that. the hunger and tiredness has really kicked in this week so i guess that is all a sign that things are still going well in there. havent quite sorted out my work situation yet but its close so will let you know soon. anyway think i will head off to the couch (my second bed!!)

take care all....

sim

[jen805]

Katiegirl--Happy Mother's Day!! Hope you have a great one! I know you're missing Nathaniel, but I hope you can find comfort in the fact that you have another blessing on the way! Soon you'll be holding your precious bundle of joy, your gift from Nathaniel! Good luck on your weekly scans, I'll be for you!!


Simba--Happy Mother's Day to you, as well! Thanks for the welcome! Good luck with your 12 wk. scan on Tue! Praying all goes well for you!

jo--Hope you have a great Mother's day! Spoil yourself and be spoiled!!


Rozzie and Hammi--Hope you're both doing well! Happy Mother's Day to all!

[Katiegirl]

Hi everyone - just a quick one to say that I have had another scan today - and all looks good. Baby is measuring around 14weeks 6 days - so 3 days ahead of schedule. I have another scan next Tuesday. Just nice to see the baby again and be reassured all is moving ahead.

Very tired and have a busy 2 days ahead as exhibiting at a tradeshow - not good for a preggers woman! This will be the last tradeshow I have to do so I will keep that thought in my mind. I am planning to finish up around Sept - so starting the countdown. I still haven't told work...in fact haven't told many people...I think I will wait for 15 weeks then will let work and others know.

I hope you are all well - take care.

[Simba]

hi all just a quick one for me. just wanted to let you all know that i had the 12 week scan a few hours ago and all was great - saw a little heart beating away and little bub gave mum and dad a few waves and thumb sucks. the measurements showed that i wont be 12 weeks till thursday but i thought that was close enough to put up my ticker!

so after a pretty emotional day on sunday i am feeling lots better. i was thinking of all of you and hoped that you had a nice day. i will be back another day to catch up more - our study doesnt have heating so its too cold to sit in here for long!

take care everyone.

sim
x

[jen805]

Katiegirl & Simba--So pleased for both of you on your recent scans! It has to be so reassuring to see your sticky bub's hearts beating away! Hope you both had an amazing Mother's day, though I can imagine it was probably an emotional time for you both! It won't be long now, and you'll both be holding your precious babies! Have a great day!

[jo76]

hi everyone!
i am still sick with the flu so have been completely knackered to say the least! Add the 4 toilet runs a night and i am not getting too much sleep at all! lol! I had a wonderful and stressful mothers day! I celebrated on saturday as i had to work the sunday and i got brekkie in bed and all the usual trimmings. Come sunday it really hit that i would have had jack by then and he would have been a week ish old so that was hard. I got home from work and they had got me a photo frame that i wanted (the large ones with all the cutouts to stick your photos in) and had cut out things from the magazines and drawn pictures of us and out them in the frames. There was one that had magazine words cut out that said baby and then jack so it was nice the family had remembered him in such a wonderful way.
i hope you all had a wonderful mums day!

barbara - how are you? i hope i can see an entry in the preg section as you have'nt been posting here so i hope all is ok! I hope you have a healthy thriving bubs!
katie - i had to laugh at you doing another tradeshow as i have remembered your dislike in previous posts! I can't believe you have so many but i am glad this was your last! you need to rest and that will not happen at a tradeshow!!! I am really happy to hear that your scans are continuing to go well and it sounds like your baby is gonna be a strong one! Their growth is certainly sprinting along so i hope that gives you great comfort!
simba! - i am also really happy your 12 week went well, one hurdle over so you can breathe now! I am really looking forward to mine in 2 weeks with a sense of happy nervousness! If that makes sense - so yours has given me a boost!
jen - thank-you for your continous kind words - i hope you realise how much they mean! you always have the right things to say to us all!I am so glad you have joined us all here!
Rozzie and Hammi - hope you both got through mothers day ok! sending hugs to both of you!
TM - hope you are well, you are not far from my thoughts! please let us know how you are!
take care everyone! i won't be MIA for so long next time! Too much going on not enought hours - you all know the drill...ha1
take care xxjo

[Katiegirl]

Hi all. I was all ready to go to bed and then made the fatal decision of turning on the computer to check my work emails...big mistake and feel all annoyed at people now! So bed will be a bit off I think. My DH would be so angry to hear I was replying to work email at 11:30! Stupid.

Jo - the tradeshow was ok but yes I hate them! I kept reminding myself that this was my last. I still have not told work so I am sure some people just think I have a huge pot belly going on. Only 2 weeks until your 12 week mark - you are moving along nicely! So glad your family made a fuss of you on Mother's Day and especially that they remembered Jack.

Simba - congrats on the excellent scan. It is such a relief to see the heart flickering away. I hope all is going well. Will I see you next week at the support group?

Jen - thanks for your messages of support. It means to much to know you are all behind us! I can't wait to return the favour when it is your turn.

TM - I hope you are doing ok. Like Jo, I to think of you often and I even said a special prayer for you yesterday. I was sitting there thinking about things, and you popped into my head so I asked God to send you a special present.

Barbara - where are you? I hope you and the bubs are doing well. Come back and update us!

Hammi and Rozzie - I hope you are both well. What is news?

Well, not much else from me. The baby is still very very low in my pelvis (which makes external scans hard). My ob has said the baby will move up by week 16 but so far it has not happened. I really want the baby to move up so that the scans can be clearer - this of course will mean my belly will be even bigger than it is now (which I am quite looking forward to) but my secret will be a secret no longer. My DH thinks it is ridiculous that I have only told a handful of people (and I told them prior to 12 weeks) but no one since the 12 week scan. I think sub-consciously I am waiting until I have had the scan at 15 weeks (which is around the time Nathaniel died) to get the go ahead. It is a mental hurdle for me. I quite like not sharing this baby with people. I haven't even told my 3 brothers or my father! Crazy.

Okay I really should try to go to bed. Take care everyone.