Mel & Lynn your websites are very special ... I copied others too - I found out by googling stuff or seeing some elsewhere too.
Sometimes we can only put memory things in our gallery becasue our photos are too special to share but I love Nicholas's photo and Copper's hand/foot prints. Brought tears to my eyes.
I have that little angel statue too - the garden is lovely.I think Jo's idea for those renting is great. A few large planters and a statue yuo can move with you.
I think the most special thing is the guestbook because people will write things they won't say in some cases.They can also read our emotion in the journal, share our peoms and see what others write ... like others who have lost their own angels and gain a deeper understanding IYKWIM.
Spring - congratulations on being UTD - and I will keep you in my thoughts.It is a very tumultuous time filled with bittersweet memories and new fears as well as the old ones.
The support group where I go has a few pregnant ladies - they don't come all the time though... I went until my last month before I was due. I stopped then because 1. I didn't want to make it hard for anyone new and 2.It was hard for me too.
Our support group doesn't ask any questions or screen anyone - we haven't had any (m) weirdos.It isn't SID & Kids because they wouldn't let one lady finish the course as she was BFing and still is 2 yrs later.
We have a social worker who is lovely but she just (brings tissues) mainly sits there and says ..." welcome - lets go round and introduce ourselves if you want" and ... then 2 hrs later "it is time to wrap this up -dpes anyone have anything they wish to say ? but you half hour more before you have to leave"
The hospital mainly provide the room and refreshments.
Jo - Bridie is gorgeous. I am sorry you didn't get to hold your angels.Dream too ... that is another tough thing to deal with.
Bailey - I love the name Asha and yes it is hard to see our babies sometimes.I have cyber friends who didn't. One only just last week told me she looked at her son's photos for first time in over 2yrs. She has just had a new baby and I think she was curious to see similarities and it was just her right time.
Everyone is right in saying we do what is best for us at the time and we can't live with regrets.We all have things we wish we did differently but hope we never have to again. Talking about it openly helps others.
Your idea of meeting up is great.I met up with a two BB ladies I met in ttc amal last week.Though I have met them both before one individually and at other BB meetups-it was our first time altogether.
I can see you are all developing a special bond with each other and supporting each other. I nod in agreement when reading your posts.
Continue to go gently and with strength ladies ... your angels would eb so proud of you all for helping others like you do.
Bec - goodluck ... I am thinking of you and hoping this does the trick for you.
Thanks Trish for your kind and encouraging words. I just find that talking with you beautiful ladies helps me so much. You are the only ones that understand me, know my pain, and feel my heartache.
Today Cooper is 2 months old. I am trying to be strong and keep myself busy today. I am going to buy a frame for his birth certificate and put it on the wall for all to see because I am proud of him and want his birth to be recognised. I don't want people to forget.
I just can't believe it has been 2 months. It feels like 2 days, although like you all said early on, you learn to live with the pain. I think I am slowly learning. It still hurts so much but I am trying to manage it.
I hope that my angel is watching over me and gives me the strength to accept the results I get tomorrow................ forever in my heart and dreams, I love you Cooper.
Dear Lynn: Every day is hard I know but it is particularly hard on days like these. I know how 2 months feels like a lifetime ago and a heartbeat ago at the same time. You should be proud of Cooper's birth certficate because you gave him the gift of birth like any other mother. I hope today is a calm day for you and that as the sun rises tomorrow, no matter what the results are, you can look up at the morning sun feel the love that Cooper has for you and his Dad. :hugs: to you sweetie.
Dream: Wow what an eventful holiday! I am impressed but the snake wrangling!!! Good luck with TTC this month, I hope the acupuncture does the trick.
Baby Amore: your support group sounds wonderful. I guess all that anyone wants is to tell their story in a safe and supportive environment around people who understand every word they speak. Thanks for the kind words about being UTD. I am not really up to announcing it formally yet, want to wait for my first scan in 16 sleeps.
Well we had the most wonderful time on the Harbour last night. I was such a fantastic introduction to Sydney. I managed to avoid the continual offers of Bubbly, Red and soft cheeses by saying that I have high Blood Pressure at the moment and the Doctor has told me no alcohol or salty food. Well it is partly true so it wasn't a lie. We didn't end up getting back to the marina until 9.30pm and by the time we got home I felt more relaxed then I have in a very long time. I am a bit bummed today though, DH just left and although we are used to being apart, this is the first time since losing Harrison so I don't know how I'll be. Anyway I am keeping myself busy today, I am doing some washing, going to the gym, do the grocery shopping and then it will be time for a nanna nap.
I hope everyone, especially you Lynn are having an ok day.
Huge :hugs: to everyone
Love Spring.
PS, If anyone is interested in the Sydney Catch Up I have started a separate thread.
PPS, Has anyone heard from Flowerchild? I am starting to get worried, wasn't she due back ages ago?
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