Hi Tei,
Couldn't agree more with what everybody has already said. The comments like "It was meant to be" and "This is very common" are not helpful at all. I already know all of that, and it is absolutely no consolation at all when experiencing or after experiencing a miscarriage.
The one thing I would like to add that no-one else has already mentioned is that the day after my D&C I got a call from a lovely nurse that had looked after me in recovery afterwards. She was calling to see how I was going and to also let me know the contact details of the local miscarriage and stillbirth group. I really appreciated that she took the time to call me at home the next day and the support group has also been a wonderful help to me in trying to get over my grief. They have also helped me with counselling and books to read etc etc. So my suggestion would be to know the contact details for your local support groups, SIDS and Kids etc.
Oh and I just thought of another one. If the woman already has a child, never say to her "at least you have your son/daughter" Please don't get me wrong, I absolutely cherish my DD after what has happened to me and will be eternally grateful to have her, but it does not mean that my feelings of loss for the baby that I will never have are any less. I hope this makes sense?
HTH and thanks for taking the time to help out those of us who have lost a baby.
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