hi tei, I too am impressed that you are seeking this knowledge as a professional in the industry.
I agree with all the ladies before me have mentioned.
I guess I was pretty lucky with my experience, I went for my first us at the hosp and was told there was no heartbeat, the poor sonographers were so sympathetic that I felt like making them belive I was ok. they found us (me and dp) a little room to sit in and sort of let it sink in, but then I had to go doen to emergency and explain at the desk why I was there, not easy when almost hysterical.
the doc I saw was a female and she jumped up on the bed next to me and sat crosslegged and gave me a big hug, then explained my options, I went back the next morning for a d&c.
anyway, I didnt ask too many questions at the time as I was in shock and had no idea what to ask anyway, the hospital did give me some leaflet about sids and kids but the website was mostly people who had lost older babies, I didnt feel "qualified" for want of a better word, If i hadnt found belly belly I dont know what I would have done.
I guess what I am trying to say is that there should be more support afterward, at the time one is in shock and pain and its not till later that one starts asking questions, and who is there to answer? the doctors are too busy.
I hope i made some sense!