I completely agree - no one at the hospital suggested anything like this and in the months following, I REALLY needed it. It was only very recently after the birth of my son (I am finding a lot of the grief/fear/anxiety that I didn't deal with at the time has resurfaced) that I was told by a social worker with the community health centre that the hospital runs a support group that meet every month - WHY wasn't I told this????No one suggested a support group or counselling to me, I was just left to deal with it until I broke down two weeks later and DH sought out support for me from SIDS and Kids and a psychologist who deals with pregnancy loss.
We lost our baby at 12 weeks and I agree with some of the other girls that a lot of the time people discount an early loss - but to ME, I saw that little heart beating, it was my baby. One of the most painful comments (and it wasn't meant to be painful, but that's the thing...) was "a healthy fetus doesn't abort itself".
I was hoping one of the other girls would post about the memories you can keep - for me with an early loss it is only my pregnancy tests, my yellow pregnancy record card, early u/sound pictures and reports but they are more precious to me than anything. They remind me that my baby did exist and while others may have forgotten them, I never will.
Obviously for a woman in AuntieM's situation (beautiful post hun) things like footprints, photos etc can be taken and I've heard so many friends here on BB talk about how important these things are.
When you go home and are supposed to continue on with your life, this is all you have....
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