It is NOT your fault. Plan B is a progesterone-based pill which delays ovulation and inhibits fertilisation and implantation. If ovulation has happened already and implantation occurs anyway the extra progesterone actually protects the pregnancy (many women take it in early pregnancy to help PREVENT loss). Plan B is NOT an abortificant. It can only PREVENT pregnancy, NOT end it. Your pregnancy did not end through your actions. Plan B CAN NOT harm an existing pregnancy - if your partner wishes he can simply google "Plan B" for further information on this. I'm so sorry for your loss

How pregnancy (especially unexpected pregnancy) makes us feel can be quite disturbing. I was TERRIFIED when i fell pregnant - it was too late for plan b and i knew i'd go on and have the baby but still, yes, there were times when i wondered if what was happening was the "right" thing. If fear or confusion or ambivalence in the mother ended pregnancies the world population would be MUCH smaller. You did nothing wrong, you are blameless. No-one knows why terrible things happen to good people, please don't beat yourself up over this.

It is often a difficult time follwing a loss, as many of us have found, as it is hard for our partners to know how we feel and vice versa. Hopefully soon he will realise your devastation at this loss matches his. Keep talking, hang in there.

Bx