So sorry peanutter, it's obviously brought up a lot of the trauma back of ds's birth.

I would be talking to the hospital and asking for skin on skin contact. I think you will be surprised at how many cuddles you will get from ds he will be able to climb up to you for cuddles even while you are bfing.

When I wasn't allowed to lift dd1 for 6 weeks before dd2 was born she was able to get up onto the change table for me so I could change her nappy. You may be able to drive before 6 weeks I was in the car at 3 weeks, you just won't be able to lift things.

Write a list of what is important to you and work out with your support team what is possible and how.