Hi hoobly
Thanks for your reply... DP and i got together not long after they split (we had been together back in 99 and lost contact when he got with his EX Wife) We got back in contact with each ther thro a friend 8 months before they had split and she assumed we were having a FLING even tho i lived 600km away at the time and hadnt seen him for 4 years.. So she decided she would go and sleep with her cousins husband / DP best mate....... anyway wayyyy off topic..

SO access before i came along was when ever DP wanted which he had him a 3 nights a week and when we got together it was still like that for a couple of months till she wanted DP to pay for her $2000 mobile fone bill and said dat if he didnt pay for it she would make sure he didnt see DSS... so we went to court and asked for basically wat we are asking for now of course she refused all of it and said every 2nd w/e 1pm sat to 1pm sunday was enuff. and dat was it den we went back to court and got wat we have now......

Regarding My DD her Father is not in the picture and has never been in the picture (totaly different topic)
So DP isnt asking for extra time to play big happy familys he was seeing him more before we got together.... He wants to be a active part of his DS life and she just wont let him(but yet if he was wanting to have nuffing to do wif him she would be B*tching that he wasnt in his life GRRRRR)
We wouldnt be asking for more time with DSS if he wasnt asking us every visit if he can have more sleepovers... As we said we would wait till he was at school before asking for more time but when he started to ask for more sleep overs we tried mediation (the mother agreed to pretty much all the times we r asking more now apart from the tuesday night overstay and only wanted one week of the xmas hols but then 2 days later we got a call from the mediaitor saying she didnt want to do any of it ) so now we have to take it back to court...
its soooooooo frustrating...

If he is really struggling could it be coz he wants to see us more and isnt allowed too ??????????

Regarding Dr appointments and things we have requested that we be there for his SPecialist Appointments and so on (he had a iron deficincy and is being assessed for asthma) and she just refuses to tell us anything she wont even tell us who is GP is...... We have been asking for all this info since dec 05 its just so frustrating

Anyway Hoobley thanks for ur input i can see where you are coming from... it just p*sses me off that she thinks she is DSS only parent and is not including DP in THEIR sons life...

Lulu2 thanks for your comments too we admit alot has happened inhis life in the last 12 months specially seen both his mother and i have had babies and Me july 07 and her Oct 07 so he has 2 half siblings 14 weeks apart btu he has handled it pretty well.. He loves both babies always taking about his half sister when he is with us and his aunty tells us he is always taking bout DS when he is at his mums place.....Even his aunty (DP EX wife sister) didnt knwo that he is apparently struggling so that is another reason we think its just a plight to get us to stop asking....

Anyway thanks girls

Sarah