She walked away from the marriage not DP he went to work one day and returned to a empty house.. After she told DP that she had 2 affairs they tried couciling DP was invited to one session and the next day she moved out.. We think she had it planned for awhile becoz she let her car run out of rego 6 weeks before she moved out She hid the rego papers in a pile of magazines We found it while cleaning out the house when DP moved in with us and we found papers regarding Child support and single parents pension and a list of things she was taking all shoved at the back of a cupboard.... and she took DP Ute and told him that if he wanted the ute back he had to give her $8000 or she would sell the ute..... (she really is apiece of work) So of course He sold all his shares and gave her the $8000 cash and she refused to give him a reciept for it and still to this day she wont...
The phone bill was just another way for her to be in controll DP never paid the bill coz he didnt see why he should have to pay for a bill where all the calls were to the guys she had the affairs with so DP mother went around to her parents (she was stayin there till she her flat was ready)house and told them that chris would not be paying the bill and Exwife screamed at MIL and said dat her side of the family would never see DSS again if she could get her way...

DP pays his child support and dat has been whole other headache LOL he was earning juswt over $300 a week and they told him he had to pay $200 a week in CS. later found out they had stuffed up somewhere after us ringing them for 6 mths telling them something was wrong but of course they wouldnt give us back the money
Ex wife has asked us to pay for DSS Xrays and we told her give us the reciepts and work out how much u get back from medicare and we would pay it but of course she never gave us the reciepts and we still havent seen the xrays(dont even know wat they were for)

We are gettin a family report done in November so they will assess us with DSS and then DSS with his mother and her partner... and they will speak to DSS.... and my DD about how she feels about DSS....
DSS calls our house home when he is with us and calls his mothers house MUMS house he says His room at mums house and my room at dads house... We try not to go over the top with things dat we do on weekends dat DSS comes to stay.. Most of the time DSS is happy to come home and play with his cars and trucks and ride his bike with DD and the kids in the court he has befriended......

She was refusing extra time before her new partner came on the scene they have only been together Maybe 2 years.. its not very long coz she fell pregnant to him pretty much straight away ..

DP was a ok first time dad.. EXWife used to work weekends so DP would take DSS round to see his parents (she wouldnt take DSS round there) and spend time with him as he worked thro the week and didnt get to see him much ( He was running a business)..... He said he is the same with our DS he did the same things with DSS as he does now with DS and he is pretty good he helps bath and feed and so on....

I hear ya bout being desperate for breaks... I was a single mum for 5 years from the age of 19... and in those 5 years my mum looked after DD for me for 3 days so i could attend a family memeber birthday in Melb Only reason why mum looked after was coz It was to big of a trip on the bus(had no licence) for a 5 months old... So nice to be able to leave the kids home wif DP while i run to the shops for 5 mins peace LOL
AS for the Putting myself in the same situtation..Re DD spending time with her father... I think i would agree to it coz i hated my own mum from stoppign me seeing my dad till i was 11 and i have always said i would never do that to my kids.... If DD was asking to see her father 3 nights a week and her father was requesting it i would say yes.. he does have as much "right" to her as wat i do We made her together she wouldnt be here without him or me for that matter but you get the idea of wat im saying... But i dont know wat i would do if it was really to happen as i have never had to think about it.. But i would not stop DD seeing him like i said i still to this day dont forgive my mum from stopping me seeing my dad
and i dont want any of my kids hating me over a silly lil revenge thing at the father.....

If that makes sense...

Hope it does LOL
God reading back over this it like reading a script for days of our lives LOL
How sad ???