It is to much to ask ? Re: Child Access

[barbie-up]

Every 2nd w/e Friday 330pm to either sunday 7pm or monday 9am
following thursday 330pm to 9am friday
following Tuesday 330pm to 9am Wednesday
Every 2nd Public hol 9am to 7pm
One week of all mid year hol friday 330 to friday 330pm
2 weeks during xmas hols with Ex wife to have the middle weekend friday 330 pm to sunday 7pm
DP birthday 9am to 7pm
DD and DS birthday 330pm to 830pm
DSS b/day non school days odd yr 9am to 230pm
even yr 230pm to 7pm
School days Odd yr 6pm to 830pm
even yr 330pm to 6pm
and xmas and easter to stay the same 24 hours each

To me, it seems like a lot of f@rting around - little bits here and there. I would think that would be more unsettling for your step son - a couple of hours here and there during the week. Personally, I would not agree to anything that planned for more than 12 months in advance and I would not allow half days or after school pick ups, unless I could not be there.

My children stay with their father five nights a month - every second weekend, and one extra Saturday night. Caitlin goes to after school care two nights a week, as a mother and for continuity I much prefer that, than having to pick her up from her dads place.

Hoobley - your EX sounds a bit like mine - the love them, but finally realise they are hard work and they think they're doing you a favour caring for them !

[Beatrix]

IMHO i wouldnt agree to that either.

The weekends visits are fine ect and the school holidays yep and the birthdays

But i think that mid week stuff is alot of farting around and it is a massive inconvience. He is young and its alot of movement for a young child.

As well as he is at the age where he is going to start playing parents off against each other, which could factor into wanting to see you guys more cause you would more then likely have something planned for time with him, whereas his mother doesnt. You are a novelty to him. Mum is the big bad meanie who does most of the displining etc.

My eldest daughter already tries to play us off, when i tell her off or she isnt allowed to do something she wants to its automatically I want my daddy.


BUT i do want to say i think it fabulous that you want to spend this amount of time with him!!! I really hope you can get a good agreement for your DSS