Every 2nd w/e Friday 330pm to either sunday 7pm or monday 9am
following thursday 330pm to 9am friday
following Tuesday 330pm to 9am Wednesday
Every 2nd Public hol 9am to 7pm
One week of all mid year hol friday 330 to friday 330pm
2 weeks during xmas hols with Ex wife to have the middle weekend friday 330 pm to sunday 7pm
DP birthday 9am to 7pm
DD and DS birthday 330pm to 830pm
DSS b/day non school days odd yr 9am to 230pm
even yr 230pm to 7pm
School days Odd yr 6pm to 830pm
even yr 330pm to 6pm
and xmas and easter to stay the same 24 hours each

To me, it seems like a lot of f@rting around - little bits here and there. I would think that would be more unsettling for your step son - a couple of hours here and there during the week. Personally, I would not agree to anything that planned for more than 12 months in advance and I would not allow half days or after school pick ups, unless I could not be there.

My children stay with their father five nights a month - every second weekend, and one extra Saturday night. Caitlin goes to after school care two nights a week, as a mother and for continuity I much prefer that, than having to pick her up from her dads place.

Hoobley - your EX sounds a bit like mine - the love them, but finally realise they are hard work and they think they're doing you a favour caring for them !