I don't know whether I'm just seriously grumpy today, but I'm just so over all the questions that people think it's ok to ask because you are doing IVF.

There's been two in two days lately...

Thursday as I was leaving work I had someone pull me aside and ask "and where are you at with the IVF now?". She also proceeded to do the other thing that annoys me immensely and proceeded to tell me how she'd heard something recently where sinlge embryo transfers were more likely to result in a live baby than double embryo transfers... grrr!! How do you tactfully suggest to someone that me and my FS have it covered and we aren't going to find that magic clue to getting me pregnant by waiting for her to tell it to us?

Then another today... "where are you with your treatment?" I was vaguely tempted to start talking about what my rheumy is doing (sticking me on calcium and vitamin D supplements in addition to everything else to counteract the loss of bone density from the prednisone) or perhaps the anxiety (prothiaden dose still high, still seeing psychologist), but I couldn't.

Why is it suddenly ok to ask us what we are going through? Why is our fertility and plans to reproduce suddenly open slather for conversation topics just because we can't do things the normal way? It's not like they'd go ask someone of normal fertility when they were planning on boinking their husband and when AF was due, and "where are you at in your cycle, dear? about to ovulate? about to test?"

Why is it ok to do that to us? Is it not bad enough that we'll have four people in the room when we do conceive?

I just wish my colleagues would at least give me what little dignity I have left in this whole process! Please tell me I'm not the only one who has to put up with this?

Maybe I should have put this in the vent forum...

BW