I had another one of those conversations with mum yesterday and of coure she told me again to move forward and not to look back ( oh how easy it is for her to say ) so you'd be proud of me when I told her she doesn't get me and asked her if she's ever lost a baby so then she would understand what I'm going through, and then she basically backed down. I've just resigned myself to the fact that no matter how hard she tries to understand my loss, she never will.
It's just frasturating as we are so similar in personalities and character, and she doesn't understand. I know she means well and doesn't want me to fall into some deep dark hole, but I can't believe she denies me my grieving.
I think I'm just going to have to accept that she doesn't understand my grief, and leave it at that. It is a shame though...I have other friends who have not lost any children or had any miscarriages, and they understand me. Go figure ! And they're not my blood relatives !!!!!
Anyway, sorry for blabbing on too much. How are you coping with xmas getting nearer ?
) so you'd be proud of me when I told her she doesn't get me and asked her if she's ever lost a baby so then she would understand what I'm going through, and then she basically backed down. I've just resigned myself to the fact that no matter how hard she tries to understand my loss, she never will.
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