SaraJane, so sorry to hear your sad news.

Regarding the tests etc, from my experience I would suggest you do have them so you can monitor what's going on, though it is a shame that the medical professionals you are dealing with are so dismissive of your concerns. I had no sign that anything was wrong till I went for my nt u/s at 12 1/2 weeks, and saw that bub had passed around 7.5-8 weeks. I opted for d & c to get it over with (and besides, my body was obviously not going to do anything about it - was still growing a placenta for goodness sake!).