Heaven your parenting style sounds similar to mine and/or your DD similar to my DS! He will come and tell me when I have hurt his feelings (usually when I've yelled or used a sharp tone with him). LOL and I LOVE that he does that. Because it pulls me up and helps me to realise that I've become "stressy" mummy who is overly task focused at the expense of our connection. I didn't teach him that line btw, I think his daycare teach the kids to say that with peers but I actually feel really proud of him that he feels he can come and tell me when I've upset him (and vice versa because I'll always tell him when he's getting on my nerves and why ). He has done it a few times now, to both DP and myself.

And FWIW, I agree with lots of the previous discussion as well. It's about teaching kids the respectful or socially appropriate way in all areas of their communication and behaviour and our expectations should change as they grow and develop. I try to always respect DS, even if I can't go along with what he wants (and it happens frequently) in the hopes that he will model this respect towards himself and others as he grows and eventually (hopefully) internalise it.