Webbmeg - thats a great way of looking at it.... you're right about the validation side of things. And fair enough too huh.... everyone needs acknowledgement for what they went through, good or bad
I think once I go through labour/birth with this bub, I'll be able to say to Mum "thanks for going through all that for me!!" as I'll understand it all better.

I'm just sooo damn excited about the soon to be labour and birth of our first child!!! It's so exciting!! I just can't wait to experience it all...... the good and the bad!! But when i say that to people they think i'm mad for thinking like that

Thanks girls