Parenting after LTTTC #2

[onthefly]

Shannon - the mental image of that person on the plane is priceless!
Hope the FS appointment goes well.
Dunno about genetic links. There seems to have been a general increase in the number of people using AC, probably for a variety of reasons, so it's not surprising that there would be some amongst all of our relatives. One of my cousins used AC, but the others appear pretty fecund. My siblings are the only ones that haven't started families yet, actually.

WOW Lenny, how do you manage on your own for so long? Your DH needs to get a different job . Have you got some nice personal-time activities planned for when he's back?
I can completely understand why trips away, particularly if they're long and/or frequent, are anything but holidays. Let's face it, you're never really on holidays with kids.

[sazzafrazz]

Lenny, hope you all have a fantastic catch up when DH gets home. DS will go bananas when he realises. C goes a bit mad when Nige gets home after a couple of hours

Shannon, I wondered the same thing. I actually mentioned it to the FS and he almost laughed at me. Ours is diff though, being DH family. His mum and eldest sister had hysterectomies in their mid 30s, second sister almost died of heamorrage at first AF and last sister had several miscarriages plus first child was very preterm, and had preterm problems with second child. DH had undecended testes. I'm thinking all sex organs start out the same in early foetus so perhaps his problems COULD be related back to his mother. FS didnt care to discuss.

Others relate the higher incidence of AC to the environment, chemicals, electronic "stuff", foods. That could effect some families more than others if they are succeptable I guess. Hmmm, it's a tough one to think about. I do wonder if we may have passed on something to C. I sure hope not, I wouldnt want her to go through the same thing.

Shannon, I understand what you were saying about the addiction and feeling lost. I never really felt a normal part of my belly buddies group, because of being the only AC one. I also felt a bit the same with my mums group for ages. Not so much now but I do feel 'alone' when they are now starting with the next bubs. I guess it has been part of my life for over 12.5years so it's coloured a lot of what I have experienced in that time. I am having a difficult time letting go of that way of thinking. It is going to take some time to stop thinking about TTC or waiting etc. I have to retrain myself I think.

Went through all of C's baby clothes last night. Took 5 big bags to the opshop today and will be selling the rest once I have organised bundles. I have already been through the bottles, jolly jumper etc. Feels good to be decided and proactive for a change. I am amazed at how OK I am with it all actually. Not like me at all! It has given me a bit of a boost in the "appreciate all the little things that come with this age cause they wont last long" department.

Lenny, completely understand how you feel about your trips to NZ. I often feel for those who move far away like that cause you spend all your holidays with family, not really "Holidaying" and feel obligated to do it, not just for fun. Do they get out here much? How is your brother doing these days??

[sazzafrazz]

Sorry girls, I have just realised how selfish my posts have been lately. I promise it wont dominate every conversation forever, it's just been such a big one for me!

BW, can sympathise with you and your frosties. I guess just worry about it when the time comes. We were a bit the same for a while after C's traumatic birth, not knowing if we ever could go back. Just remember, you can store those bubbas for years!!!!

Hello everyone else!!! Nice to have this thread going again

[onthefly]

His mum and eldest sister had hysterectomies in their mid 30s, second sister almost died of heamorrage at first AF and last sister had several miscarriages plus first child was very preterm, and had preterm problems with second child. DH had undecended testes. I'm thinking all sex organs start out the same in early foetus so perhaps his problems COULD be related back to his mother. FS didnt care to discuss.

Oh my goodness! That's really rough for his family. Surely it couldn't all just be a coincidence...

And it's not selfish Sazz, this is a place to get it all out and to have your 'mentalness' understood.

Those little bubbies will keep BW . In time you'll know what to do.

[briggsy's girl]

hi ladies

Sazz - it's ok to be talking about your decision - i guess it's something all of us have or will contemplate at some point - it's helpful to know that you can make that decision and be ok with it!

Lenny - it's hard having a DH that works away so much isn't it? mine was just away for 10 days and by the end, i couldn't wait for him to come home just for the distraction factor for Emerald. i can get so much done if i don't have a bubba in my arms - would probably be similar if she would snooze in a sling or carrier but she refuses! i was really worried about how she'd react - 10 days in the life of a 10 week old is a huge amount of time! but she woke up from sleeping in the car last night to find daddy laying there in the bed watching her (mummy was changing her nappy - i got ripped!!) - she gave him the biggest sweetest smile, and then they were in their own little world - i just didn't exist for a while. daddy gave her big snuggles before bed and she snuggled back, and when she woke this morning he got her out of bed and ust held her and talked to her. i think 10 days in the life of his 10 week old was a bit much for daddy too!

not a lot happening here - had to do the shopping today - survived - but i hate shopping - it just drives me insane. trying to shop for food for home and for DH to have in his truck withoout buying twice as much stuff... sigh... at least E was almost perfect - cried when we were in BIG W cos she wanted lunch (fair enough - it was lunch time and we'd been out and about for a while). fed, fell asleep in daddy's arms, and that was it til we came out to the car (and mummy generously fed her again, put her in her car seat, got in the front seat and her the explosion! we were on our way home though so just kept going - too cold to change her with the door open in the back of the car and the boot was full with pram and shopping)

[butterfly_warrior]

Thanks guys... it's a bit frustrating as I'd like to make the decision *now*, but realistically, even if we decide to do something with those frosties... it's at least 12 months away... it's so hard to just put them out of my head! I'm so not a patient person, and this is really testing my patience!

BG, we braved BigW today as well... big mistake. In fact, I did it twice today! The first one I went to didn't have the cook book I saw yesterday and decided I wanted to get, so that meant I had to head back to a second one later in the day.

Lenny, just to give you a big fright - Sam will be 8 months old next week! DH is in complete denial over it and it's so hard to believe he's that old! Still not crawling, but the longer he stays immobile the better in my mind!

Had an interesting experience today running into an ex-student with her 3 week old baby. She just seemed so tiny, but was significantly larger than Sam was at birth... I just can't see that tiny little baby any more - just this enormous, boofy, gorgeous little boy that is snuggling in my arms... STILL not sleeping! It's been one of those days...

ETA: on the subject of inheriting infertility... I think it's a load of bull! I'm sure that in some cases it does happen, but how many of us inherited our parents' fertility? Both DH and I came from extremely fertile familes where nobody else had any issues at all... and then there's us.

BW

[onthefly]

heheheh, car seat explosion! I love it - brings back so many memories....
8 months? and E's nearly 3 months...!
Hope the sleeping happens for you soon.... 16 months and counting here I'm afraid.

Looks like A is sick again. Maybe just a cold or something. He's perked up with some panadol so can't be too bad. Bloody daycare!

[Megan]

It's nice to see this thread moving again.
Sazz, I admire your decision to not continue with AC. It must be a weight lifted and exciting to be able to plan for the future as a family of three.
We have also decided no more AC. But we were almost at that decision when I found out I was pg naturally with DS. Given that I had a natural pg, we are hoping it may happen again but if it doesn't we will be content with our little boy. During my c/s I found out I have a bicornuate uterus which is possibly why I had trouble conceiving. It's good to finally know what the problem is, but frustrating to have had it go undetected all these years.
DS hit the 4 month mark on the weekend and I can see 2 teeth ready to poke through down the bottom. He had a few grouchy days over the weekend, but has been a dream ever since so I don't think they are bothering him too much. He's not rolling yet and in no hurry to either! I am certainly in no hurry for him to grow up. Have continued going to mothers group after our official sessions ended, but am a bit put off by the competitive nature of some of the mothers. Not sure if I will keep going if it's going to be like that.
Sorry, DS just woke up for his last feed for the night. Hopefully will get back to finish personals later.

[onthefly]

AF has returned! (cause you soooo wanted to know that)

[Megan]

lol Marcellus! Mine too, but last month. Not fair...fully breastfeeding and she still comes back after 3 months.
I have decided to stick out mothers group a bit longer. It's hard because we are a small group and the babies range in age from 3-6 months, so they're at different stages of development. I guess that's why I don't understand the competitiveness. I'll get over it, but once the 2 ladies I get along with go back to work in the new year I might call it a day.
Noah has had a rough day. I think it must be his teeth again. Both the bottom ones look like they are ready to break through... but they looked like that a couple of days ago and the disappeared again and he was fine. Is this how it works? They just come and go until eventually the pop through? It's been going on for about 10 days now. He is also having his 4 month needles on Wednesday. teething on top of needles My poor boy.

BW, I hear you about newborns. I can't imagine Noah being that little. I was looking at some photos last night and couldn't believe the difference. It made me a little teary, but he's a joy as a happy, giggling 4 month old. I don't think the first weeks were this much fun!

[Lenny]

marcellus - amazing that AF took that long, although mine only came back when i started "scheduling" DSs feeds as opposed to more "demand" feeding.

Megan - some teeth seem to come and go and come again. Some seem to turn up overnight. It's not fair really, poor little tykes.

[onthefly]

Ripped off Megan! I guess I've been quite lucky really. In a few months it'll start getting painful again and then I'll be slapping myself for wishing it back.

Yep, teeth do that! It's a real pain. With A's first 'batch' of 6 teeth the last one took six weeks to come through! No.s 6-12 have taken 4 months to cut... these molars are a killer.

And he's still sick. And I'm sick. And DH went off to work this morning with a cough. Oh yes, it's going to be another great week.

[onthefly]

Just a little woohoo for me - A didn't cry when I dropped him off at daycare today!

Hope you're all doing well

[briggsy's girl]

that's fantastic Marcellus!

not a lot happening here - E is just travelling along,coming forward in leaps and bounds. such a lovely natured little soul most of the time - but OMG - the red-head temper is shocking lol

[Lenny]

Oh, yay for you marcellus. It's tough, I know. L still cries when he realises that we are at daycare (he does 3 hours on a thursday). But he has an absolutely fantastic time - I know, because i have snuck in early a few times to pick him up and he is running and playing and dancing with all the other kids. But usually he starts to cry again when he sees me...they make it tough on their mummies!!

BG - pleased to hear that E is a lovely baby. Long may it last. I don't think you have to have a red-head to have a temper! Little darlings one minute, crazy tantrum throwing toddler the next