i guess its hard for all of us to read this thread: maybe they need separate ones like:
has a boy, having another boy and wants a girl
has a boy, having a girl and wants another boy
has a girl, having another girl and wants a boy
etc LOL!!!
Because for example for caro: while I am really really sorry that you are going through so much pain caro, my "mind" just can't understand how you could be having a boy and girl and not be happy about this...please dont take that as a criticism, its not rational, but im just so jealous that you get to have a girl and i dont, that i just dont get it. my mean jealous thoughts say that i just "know" you will love your boy so much and be so glad that you have got to raise one, whereas I will never stop wishing for a girl...even tho i know i will love my next boy. but thats just me seeing life through my own little selfish window of sadness.....(pls dont be offended!)
anyway, heres hoping that we all just can get over this as soon as possible, and forget about it as soon as we get to know our little ones.
incidentally, i keep looking in here hoping i will see a post from people who have experienced gender disappointment (and specifically in my case, having been disappointed about having never had a girl) and who say that it goes away and that you forget to care/worry about it after a while. i think that is probably unrealistic given this is a preg forum and everyone who writes in here will be in the throes of it, not getting over it....