Well i posted a thread from the other point of view around the early second trimester.. My DP being horney as a dog on heat... It wasnt until i had some great replies that i myself realised that although i wasnt feeling in the mood my DP was...
I guess for me with all the Morning sickness then the tiredness, aches, pains, having a toddler, yeah it was the last thing i was thinking bout and honestly that was the problem i NEVER thought about it...
The wonderful replies i got helped me understand that Men, unlike women, do need sex. I was thinking it was just DP wanting SEX but what i hadnt realised was it was also his way of showing affection to me. My DP was very open to my suggestions, but as its not her asking for help i guess the only advice i can give you is what i told my DP...
With him always asking it was making me feel bad for not feeling like it, after all i couldnt help having no labido... I suggested maybe helping get things done early so we could get to the bedroom earlier, suggested a nice back rub- without the intention of sex after just to possibly get me in the mood, maybe run a nice bath so i could relax, cook dinner, try a little romance to see if it would work up to feeling like it.
I'd also suggest instead of asking all the time maybe try talking and telling her your feeling rejected and UNLOVED??? this hurt me when DP said it was like now i'm preg i didnt need him or want him!!! SO not true.. so maybe get her to see how your feeling emotionally not making it all about "the sex" itself... some of the ladies suggested a few more things i could do instead of "SEX" IUKWIM??? but i dont think it would be a good idea to suggest them your self. If my DP suggested other things to well um.... help his needs i'd have punched him... hehehe
Good luck and hopefully things work out...
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