If she's anything like me, she probably feels really guilty for not having a desire for sex. It's good to know that I'm not alone by reading this thread, but it doesn't help solve the problem.

One thing that my husband and I did was to go away for a weekend. We didn't go anywhere fancy, just to a farm house which was so quiet and far away from everything and everyone we knew, with no TV or mobile phone reception.

Once we were there I told my husband I'd like to just get down under the bed covers and cuddle. I told him I needed tenderness and love rather than 'throw me against the wall' sex. We just enjoyed each other and we had a lovely time, and he was very pleased with the outcome

Your situation is a tough one, because she doesn't seem to want any closeness, but don't take it the wrong way. Just remember, she is probably riddled with guilt and that's not helping her at all. Anything you can do to make her feel less guilty would be very positive for your relationship.

Consider taking her away somewhere quiet and relaxing, but don't carry any expectations with you. If you do go away, stop by the Body Shop before you go and buy some body scrubs and other things that you could pamper her with. Try some things that will help you connect with her physically but that don't automatically = sex.