howdy everyone
Katie- yeah, being told to relax and even knowing it would help is a far cry from being able to do it. you are so fresh to the loss- take what ever comes and seek what helps you rather than what could help you if only you could do it. the rest will come later.
Jo- ikwym about work - i just didn't care for so long, i just came because that is what was expected. and i needed to pay the damn hospital bills. even now work doesn't hold the same place it once did. sorry about your cry with dh and dtd - i did the same, that physical area was so linked to Yeti's death. i cried at your story about your customer's response -- some people really do get it and it makes such a difference. sorry your other friend did not - that seems to happen more often that the other way. death of a baby is something many people cannot face.
Barbara- oh, i hate those reminders and facing people who will ask questoins and probably not react as well as Jo's customer. i ran into a meeting just yesterday, on Yeti's 10 month birthday, where someone asked me how our first born was doing. i don't think the "reminders" ever end.