Chelle
I know it won't ease the pain but I'm sending you big hugs and much love
Remember everyone is thinking of you and your DH
I hope the night is kind to you and brings strength and hope
Much love
Alex
xxx
Chelle I am so so sorry. Life is just so unfair and cruel and I'm sorry that you have to go through this again. If you need the support, know that we are all here for you. If you need your own space then we understand. Take care, thinking of you and your family :hugs:
Chelle - I am so sorry you are going through this again Life is so unfair, some people have to work so hard for something they want (and lets face it, need) but yet for others it comes so easily. I ask myself all the time why we are the ones chosen for the hard road and I cannot come up with a reason. However, if we have to go through this at least we can go through it together and with so much support. If you feel you need to hang around please do, whether you TTC again or not. I am sure you still need the support, maybe even a little more.
Deb - Sorry to hear to about your friend, :hugs: to her and Spring is right, she is extremely lucky to have such a wonderful (and clever) friend.
Klee - I was so great meeting you and DP, you were extremely strong telling your and Phoebe's story and yours and all the others made me feel so sad and teary. If only I could have gotten teary at my own story - everyone must have thought I was a freak not crying talking about Nicholas, I just couldnt though
Spring - Try not to stress too much about lil Spring, I remember with Nicholas it wasnt until towards the 30 week mark that I used to feel him moving around more than not, and from then on he was such a rough-nut too! Listen to your OB (& Deb of course) he has gotten you this far... Although I can understand why your stressed so big for you anyway.
Lynn - I already spoke to you about your results yesterday, I am hoping so much that there is some really good stuff going on in there tomorrow. Hope you are feeling ok.
Hi to everyone else.
Well to catch you all up on the argument with DH, he found last night to be really helpful and made me realise that it was his first opportunity EVER to talk to another father who has lost their baby. I have you girls but he has no one who understands what it is like for him. I mean I understand my feelings but dont know what he feels. He said that he wants to continue to go to the meetings and he is going to try to be more open with people instead of pretending everything is good. I think yesterday made me realise that I have been relying on him to support me but forgetting he needs my support as well. God I feel like a bad wife! But I am aware that he is not coping as well as it seems now so we just have to try to work together.
Well like Klee, I am absolutely wrecked today so I am going to have a quick read through some threads and go to bed (well after I eat a veg pastie, so easy having them in he freezer!).
Mel: I am glad that yesterday opened up some lines of communication with you and DH about your grief and how you are both dealing with it. I guess no one writes a book about how to get through this so we are all fumbling our way through this journey. Don't be worried that you didn't cry, sometimes I am the same when I talk about Harry, some times I ball, that is how unpredictable grief is.
Mel - Great to hear you and DH found the meetings helpful. I agree with Spring, sometimes I can tell my story without crying and other times I cannot get a word out without blubbering. Not sure why, it is so random. I sent you a little good luck charm yesterday to give you some good vibes for this month. Hopefully you will get it tomorrow
Spring - I know that everyone has already said, but please try not to stress about movements yet. One of the reasons that you don;t need to do kick charts this early on is because the movements are too hard to feel unless the baby is in the right position. They still have so much room in there you just cannot always feel them. I know it is easy for us to say. I am sure that in a few months we will be here posting the same thing and you will giving us our own advice back....
Well me, still not sure when these bl00dy eggs of mine are going to show up!! I have been doing the OPK's for a week. The line seemed darker today, but still not as dark as the control, so I am hoping that it will be positive tomorrow. I have been temping for 2 weeks to, and there hasnt yet been a rise, so I don't think I missed it? But we have been DTD quite a bit, so hopefully we caught it!!
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