Babies Born April 2008 #3

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Grubi, re overfeeding, it's confusing isn't it? I can't figure it out. I read a real AP book that advocates comfort nursing, yet they chuck if they eat too much!

Do any of you think that it's the ability your kids have of sucking that helps them sleep? DH is trying to teach DS to suck his fingers and sometimes it works, but like a dummy, it feels like suppression to me so I'm grappling with it. So I'm wondering what you think the trick is at your house. Blankies and dummies and stuff are identified as things that stop a baby/child from expressing crying or other emotion, and I've seen that in DD now that she's older what Blankie did for her, good and bad. I am trying not to repeat certain mistakes. Anyone have an opinion on this?

Zennie, I'm glad things are looking up.

[Zennie]

Janine - i let Russell comfort suck at the boob rather than offer his dummy and would rather hold him and comfort him then leave him to work it out for himself and so far todate, he will rarely take a dummy to settle and when he dose its usually when we are in the car. Russell seems to settle better when allowed to comfort himself in the way that he wants to be comforted and i think thats the key, do how they want it to be done and empower DS not suppress him with alternative mechanisms. so if he wants to suck his fingers id let him but wouldnt force it on him, more let him discover for himself.

[BabyWrangler]

Hmm the quick reply button disappeared again!

My DS has a dummy, mainly because of the reflux, I don't want him sucking on me all the time because he has thickener in his EBM, and when I DID let him have me the other day, he had heaps more wind than he's had for days....so its dummy for him!

His routine is going really well, 10, 2 and 6 feeds 2-3 hour sleeps in between, he's got a bit of cradle cap at the moment, really really mild, but we are going to anti-dandruff it every 2nd day for a week or so and that should knock it on the head.

He's drinking about 125ml of thickened EBM each feed at the moment with a top up "dream feed" at about 10pm, rather than just letting him sleep as long as he wants....I'm being quite rigid with it mainly because of his Zantac, I like to keep it evenly spaced...

[Nettie]

Janine- my little man's snuffles keep him awake too. Because of his cleft palate if he gets any excess fluid in his mouth, it makes him snuffly in his nose (no separation).. poor tyke!

Liam liked Eurovision too! ha ha ha...

DH gave me a wonderful gift this morning and sent me back to bed after the 8 am feed. He insisted I stay there as long as I wanted and he'd look after DS. So I slept until midday! Wonderful!!

Belle - expressing's not that bad. I exclusively express & bottle feed and although there's more work involved (washing up, feeding AND expressing as separate activities, etc) I've adjusted fine and I don't mind the time it takes. At least I know my little man is getting the best stuff. Lucky you if you're supply is good. I'm struggling with mine at the moment...

Think we're heading for the 'wonder week' for week 6 (begins Thursday). Liam's already feeding more like 3 hrs than 4 again. Will walk him down to CYH tomorrow to weigh him again just to check his progress. He's been a little more grizzly than normal but he's also been more playful than normal - smiling and interracting really well in short bursts. I'm thinking we'll have to start up a routine to help us cope with feeds/sleep/bath/etc... at the moment we live by the seat of our pants! At least today I managed to get a shower in (DS doesn't like baths), tummy time, play time (even read a book!) and a walk! But he's quite grizzly tonight so it might have all been a bit much for the little fella!

to everyone. particulary those with relationship issues or sleep deprivation!

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He won't comfort suck on the boob, he gets milk and overfeeds then chucks. Or worse, usually he just screams, won't take it. But still wants to suck. Very stressful. He tries to shove his fist in, but struggles so DH is teaching him how to get a finger in. I'd love to comfort feed him, but it just isn't happening. It's a wreck.

BW, olive oil overnight, then gentle brushing with a baby brush, or gentle washing knocks cradle cap on the "head" so to speak. It can hurt to take them off too roughly or fast. But that ol' fashioned remedy has done the trick million times over. Ci has a little cradle cap, which leads me to believe he might get it like DD did, which was pretty thick layer on the scalp. I don't really care too mcuh, but this time I might do the olive oil thing and stop it progressing.

[sarah_dobbo2]

Afternoon all,

How is everyone copping? This is going to be a ME post, as haven't posted in while.

Me ok, it could be alot better, but am managing at moment. DH has gone away for work for the WHOLE WEEK. Was so teary when he left. I kept thinking what IF's someone where to happen to him while he was away. Am so dam emtional still, I thought it would end. Granted it's not everyday just the overtired run-down days/early morning days too.

DS is driving me MAD at moment. I don't know if it is a man thing or 2's thing or a attention seeking thing, be he just doesn't seem to listen. Or he just pushes my buttons. Don't know if he or I will surive the week without DH to give me time away from him.

DD goes for her brown belt in Kung Fu this afternoon. She is very excited about it. Am going down to watch. My car is playing up at moment (battary), I was going to drop DS off at Grannies for an hr, and go watch her in peice and get my photos of her, but don't want to turn car off just incase wont start. It's booked in for full service on Wednesday. So am sort of house bound till then.

DH well he hasn't been much help. Granted it my fault 'cos I don't let him. It's not that it's more of I'll get it done faster. So when he comes back I will be giving Wyatt to him more often when he gets home, also so they can bond together. With DS DH would always be home to give bath, but with Wyatt he has only done 2 since being born.

Wyatt well he bounding along. Went to his first Grass Enduro (motor cross). Was windy and raining, but I had him in his Ergo carrier which he loves and slept most of the day away. The noise didn't faze him much. However he/me has gotten into the habit of holding him until he is asleep. Would like some tips which work on how to get out of it ASAP.

Feel better now it's off chest...

Cheers
Sarah

Anyway

[Sharon19270]

I feel like I am useless as a mother!

my eldest DS is a lazy so and so and is just taking us for a ride, doesn't look for work, goes out and stays out till all hours of the morning etc, can't kick him out though as he has no where to go and that would stress me out even more. DS#2 is feeling a little jealous, I got very emotional yesterday when he told DH that he didn't want me and Oliver to come out for the family day yesterday. And Oliver has been VERY unsettled all day today, he only goes down for 1 sleep cycle, then wakes up again and screams, I have a massive headache and just feel like I am going to snap/explode.