Janine - i let Russell comfort suck at the boob rather than offer his dummy and would rather hold him and comfort him then leave him to work it out for himself and so far todate, he will rarely take a dummy to settle and when he dose its usually when we are in the car. Russell seems to settle better when allowed to comfort himself in the way that he wants to be comforted and i think thats the key, do how they want it to be done and empower DS not suppress him with alternative mechanisms. so if he wants to suck his fingers id let him but wouldnt force it on him, more let him discover for himself.