Babies Born April 2008 #3

[Fire]

He won't comfort suck on the boob, he gets milk and overfeeds then chucks. Or worse, usually he just screams, won't take it. But still wants to suck. Very stressful. He tries to shove his fist in, but struggles so DH is teaching him how to get a finger in. I'd love to comfort feed him, but it just isn't happening. It's a wreck.

BW, olive oil overnight, then gentle brushing with a baby brush, or gentle washing knocks cradle cap on the "head" so to speak. It can hurt to take them off too roughly or fast. But that ol' fashioned remedy has done the trick million times over. Ci has a little cradle cap, which leads me to believe he might get it like DD did, which was pretty thick layer on the scalp. I don't really care too mcuh, but this time I might do the olive oil thing and stop it progressing.

[sarah_dobbo2]

Afternoon all,

How is everyone copping? This is going to be a ME post, as haven't posted in while.

Me ok, it could be alot better, but am managing at moment. DH has gone away for work for the WHOLE WEEK. Was so teary when he left. I kept thinking what IF's someone where to happen to him while he was away. Am so dam emtional still, I thought it would end. Granted it's not everyday just the overtired run-down days/early morning days too.

DS is driving me MAD at moment. I don't know if it is a man thing or 2's thing or a attention seeking thing, be he just doesn't seem to listen. Or he just pushes my buttons. Don't know if he or I will surive the week without DH to give me time away from him.

DD goes for her brown belt in Kung Fu this afternoon. She is very excited about it. Am going down to watch. My car is playing up at moment (battary), I was going to drop DS off at Grannies for an hr, and go watch her in peice and get my photos of her, but don't want to turn car off just incase wont start. It's booked in for full service on Wednesday. So am sort of house bound till then.

DH well he hasn't been much help. Granted it my fault 'cos I don't let him. It's not that it's more of I'll get it done faster. So when he comes back I will be giving Wyatt to him more often when he gets home, also so they can bond together. With DS DH would always be home to give bath, but with Wyatt he has only done 2 since being born.

Wyatt well he bounding along. Went to his first Grass Enduro (motor cross). Was windy and raining, but I had him in his Ergo carrier which he loves and slept most of the day away. The noise didn't faze him much. However he/me has gotten into the habit of holding him until he is asleep. Would like some tips which work on how to get out of it ASAP.

Feel better now it's off chest...

Cheers
Sarah

Anyway

[Sharon19270]

I feel like I am useless as a mother!

my eldest DS is a lazy so and so and is just taking us for a ride, doesn't look for work, goes out and stays out till all hours of the morning etc, can't kick him out though as he has no where to go and that would stress me out even more. DS#2 is feeling a little jealous, I got very emotional yesterday when he told DH that he didn't want me and Oliver to come out for the family day yesterday. And Oliver has been VERY unsettled all day today, he only goes down for 1 sleep cycle, then wakes up again and screams, I have a massive headache and just feel like I am going to snap/explode.

[sarah_dobbo2]

Sharon: Poor thing... It's really not you. They are MEN, and I have come to the judgement they just can't be pleased.
I hope you feel better soon. Good to see you..

Better go Wyatt just woke up
Sarah

[BabyWrangler]

Hi all,
Just a quick one...I resigned today, both me and my boss cried!
Thanks for the advice re cradle cap...DS head currently smells like we are about to make brekky on it! Lots of it gone now though which is good!
Went to OB for post natal, he's stunned that I expess and bottle feed....said most people don't have the patience to bother....just doesnt seem that gard to me!
back later!

[Taurusa]

Hi All... thought it is time to join your little group!! Just snuck into this group as my little one Caleb was born on the 30th april 1 week early!

I hope to get on here and get to know you all... not too familiar with many of you, but i am sure that will change

[bellelass]

Janine- I give Lila a dummy even though I swore up and down no child of mine would have one. I think for her its the comfort thing, and she can't comfort feed from a bottle (well not really, but she does a little) and I can not can not have her on my breast. The few times she did comfort suck on my breast I sat for 3-5 hours grinding my teeth in pain. I think part of this whole parenting gig is not just doing what is 100% "the best" thing for baby, but striking a balance between good for baby/good for mummy and daddy. I mean, those balances are essential to every other relationship in life, why should this one be one sided?

BabyWrangler- My doctor was shocked I express and feed, too. Of course. Sure its time consuming, but like Nettie said I've gotten used to it, part of the routine. Would be nice not to sometimes.. Like I've had a few nights of frustration when I vowed to switch to formula, but it was the middle of the night and I had no choice but to express and feed. Then of course, everything is easier in the morning.

Sarah- That would be so hard, having DH away. You're so brave and strong. Don't know how to help you about the cuddling to sleep, I've been doing that too.

Sharon- Its ok. I saw your oldest son is 19, I was there (and a jerk) recently myself. Not trying to pry or anything, just help out a bit- is he depressed? It seems like a lot of kids in late teens/early 20's are massively depressed and don't do much with their lives because there are too many options/because of fear of failure... I was like that and so was pretty much everyone I knew. The other one I've seen a fair bit of is that things are cushy and easy at home so why would they leave? I had a friend's mother who realized she was making life too easy for her ne'er do well son so she started charging him rent and utilities and for food, and he had to do his OWN laundry etc.. Anyway know its off topic but just thought I'd put that out there...

Bah. Lila's back to never sleeping. Its like she has three days of never ever sleeping and then one day where all she does is sleep. Its hard on mum- when she's growly and needing attention I don't get any housework done, and when she's sleeping all day I greedily stay in bed getting as much sleep as possible for myself. I just don't know. I love love love my Lila but I hate parenting a baby. Except the baby smell. and the cuddles. and the little smiles. and the way she looks round for me. All of that compensates a bit i suppose.

[Katstribe]

Hi everyone

I figure its time i joined here. I know prob half of you from april 16-30th thread and look forward to getting to know the rest of you. My bub was due 28th April but she decided life on the inside was pretty cosy! So she stayed there until 12th May and nearly drove her mum insane waiting . So i know that really makes her a may bub and i will prob go introduce myself there too but as i went through my PG with half of you lovely ladies i would love to be in this group with you all!

So i look forward to making new friendships and catching up with all of you that i know.

Sharon what happened with DS living away from home? Did that not work out? Please don't beat yourself up you are not a useless mother at all, its just everything seems to go sour at the one time which is why we feel this way! You will get through it hun. I know exactly how you feel with eldest DS, ours likes to take the easy road too! If i find a miracle cure for it i promise i will share it with you

Sarah hun you sound like life is pushing your buttons a bit too! Hang in there, this first few months after having new bub are the hardest on our emotions. Definately do get DH involved more when he gets home, sometimes it just doesnt matter if they dont do it as good or fast as us, if it pains you too much to watch him just leave the room, because we need to accept any help offered at times.

Hi to everyone else and i look forward getting to know you all.

My little Molly is doing well, she is BF beautifully and is the ONLY bub out of all 7 of mine to NOT destroy my nipples in the first week! So BF has literally been a breeze and pleasure from day 1 this time round! She is sleeping well and generally only wakes once during the night for a feed and has had a couple of 7 hr nights already...

Ok well i have to go wash girls hair now so i will pop in again soon.