I lost all that I was typing because I hit some button. It took some text, I asked DF what to do and he said to ctrl+z and that took the rest of it! So never do that! And then we had an argument and then he kicked me off his pc! So thankfully I have a laptop.

Its horrifying to see someone put their beliefs into a ceremony dedicated to another individual who had opposing beliefs! I know of my father's and DF's wishes but I'm not sure if their ceremonies would be religious.

I chose to not have DD christened because I want it to be her choice. I am going to raise her neutral, and take her to services if she wants, but its not up to me. I don't think it's bad if parents raise their children to believe what they do. It would be very difficult to raise children to believe something that you do not share.