Great Post Michelle!

I second what was said there BW, ask about clots, about where they were, about (painful to discuss i know) early miscarriages, when and how. And write down the info so you have it with you. Have you been screened for Phospholipid Antibodies? You can ask your FS or Mr S for that i would think. Painful sex doesn't sound like the norm but increased blood flow can make the cervix tender and lots of women avoid sex in the 1st tri and never find out it hurts until it no longer hurts IYKWIM. Ask about that too.

Maybe you could compare this situation with the one about urologist/surgery with DH and point out to him that when it didn't sit right, he needed a 2nd opinion, and just now for you, this just isn't sitting right and you need to hear from Mr S before you can go on. I'm sure he'll understand with such a direct comparison hon, it's hard to think straight in al this pain, as i know you're aware

As for the sex, i would say if you feel ready and the bleeding isn't bothering you too much, then go for it whenever you like. Go gently with one another, i'm sure getting close like that will be a joy and a release for you both.



Bec

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