A spirtual look at loss

[AngelPunks]

as some of you may know - I'm openly pagan and have a tribal background (and hereditary bloodline).

I too believe that our children pick us, pick the situation they want to be born into and if that situation isn't quite right then they will leave us, waiting until it is time.

I've had 1 m/c and 1 other time I fell pregnant (I felt it) but went the morning after pill route because I'd had an unprotected sex one night stand (and it was the x of my best friend).

I know my daughter and son are there waiting for the right time. My circle of friends, we're very open to things like that. Even my friends daughters are talking about coming to visit me and my daughter in hospital, one (on the first time I met her) asked who the little girl was who was standing next to me and can she play with her, this friend's daughter is still very young and is only starting to differentiate between those in this realm and those in other realms that are around us (she thought my little girl was a new friend for her - which she will be). One of the other girls, who I've known since she was a baby, keeps on saying she's going to be there when Auntie Schaz's baby comes out.

I speak to my children all the time, DH speaks to them, we both speak about them - we use their names. We know our daughter is starting to exert influence because things in our situation are starting to change to get us in a position to go down the TTC path. She is the stronger/stubborner of the two. He will also be an extremely special child, probably the first male in my bloodline for a long time who has an affinity to our path.

As for past life things, I've had some serious recollections of them - may do a post in the spiritual section about it.

[Penny]

Wow ladies - these are amazing stories!!! I also believe that children a lot more finely tuned to the things going on around us that adults might dismiss...
My nephew (he was four at the time) once played with a girl on a farm/country holiday and he told his father her name etc. Upon their return to Melbourne, my brother in law asked the owner of house about this and she told him that there had been a girl by that name living there, but that she died a long time ago!

[~StarBright~]

Hi schcz and nae nae, welcome to the thread.....

I had a dream before i got pregnant with my angel son darren that i was out walking in the forest with a friend (my long time besty friend on earth ) and i came across a little boy baby in a carry basket and i picked him up, basket and all and walked down a hill and some how got into a bus and placed the basket on table (in the bus) next to another basket with a girl baby in it, i then casually walked out of the bus leaving both babies there and it wasnt till i got out side i thought about it and said to my friend- will they be ok? And she said yeah- they have people looking out for them dont worry" and that was that.
I have since lost my little boy and my little girl, but i beleive that they are being cared for and they are waiting for the right time. I also beleive i could sense a tiny taste of their personalities during my pregnancy and my daughter (who i lost 1 year ago this last sunday) is the cheeky, stubborn one and like you have said schaz i believe she is putting things in motion for us to try again and actually succeed this time, and that her brother is patiently standing beside her observing and waiting to play his own special role.

Wow Penny- amazing and Schaz too amazing about your friends children, i love when its kids who show such inhabited truth- its beautiful!

Still wondering if you have asked your son what made him tell you about the man who flew the aeroplanes scooby... very curious..

Time for sleep now- good nite ladies

SB

[LuluHB]

I'm another one who believes that we're blessed by our children choosing us. I've lost three little angels, and while pregnant with my DD I was convinced that she was the same little soul I had lost previously, now returning to me at a time that was better for her and for us. I was more convinced when she was born on the 1st anniversary of my last miscarriage (the first with my DH, the previous 2 losses having been the children of my former fiance). I was induced the day before and yet she still resisted being born until that day. My former fiance passed away, and I feel in my heart that our two angels are with their daddy.

[~StarBright~]

Wow LuLu, i have chills, thats beautiful. I hope your angels are happy with their daddy. SB

[chris]

Hi ladies
I am wondering if any of you have had dreams of doing a pregnancy test.
Yesterday I was checking the cal to see when af was due as I was thinking of doing an early preg test. Then last night I had a dream that I was doing a preg test but it was a really weird. I had to get a thimble full of urine and drop some liquid in to it and wait to see the result as there was a ring in the bottom, I was checking if it was positive when my DD woke me crying so I didn't get to find out if it was pos or neg in the dream.

I don't know what to think of the dream.
Any thoughts!!
Cheers
Chris

[scooby]

Hi everyone
sorry about the MIA had such a busy week which is good as i was doing the TWW thing but i think AF arrived although im not feeling too bad which is excellent.
NaeNae: i have the same thing i use to do quite deep mediations and am almost +ive i met my first daughter i lost through an MC i remember at the time she had this gorgeous blonde curly hair and little chubby cheeks almost like those little cupids you see and i remember laughing saying it couldnt be as although i am blonde i have very straight hair, well DS is blonde with curls and everyone always jokes saying he looks like one of those little cherubs or a child out of oliver twist. When i was prg recently with my ep everytime i closed my eyes i would sub consciencly talk to a little girl but her face wasnt formed properly and she kept saying to me it will be ok mum. So no i dont think its weird at all Naenae.
I asked DS how he knew about the man who drove aeroplanes but he coulnt remember who knows they do keep you guessing sometimes ive also heard that most kids have physic abilities and they are lost in adulthood, which really is such a shame. I know when i was at the height of meditiation practice my abilities were amazing so i always think if you can pick something up you had to have the ability in the first place.
Chris cant say ive had any dreams in regards to testing, but id love to know the outcome of yours dont you love how they wake you at that vital moment
Schaz didnt even know there was a spirtual section ill be checkin that out
Starbright i just read about your daughter i am so sorry i didnt get to light a candle on her angelversary, i hope and pray you are getting through this difficult time sending you big hugs and lots of +ive energy. take care
Hi everyone and hope your all doing well.

[sage122]

Hi girls, I'm new here and just miscarried last week with my first pregnancy. I was 7 weeks along when I found out. It's incredibly hard as this baby was so wanted..I really want to conceive again but I'm so afraid that I'll miscarry again...I'm probably going to wait a few cycles and then start trying again..It's emotionally very tough though and I think a few months will help getting over the loss. Good luck to all ttc again! My heart goes out to all of you who have lost your angels

[scooby]

Welcome Sage
So sorry to hear of your angel it is such a hard time but know we are all here for you. Take all the time you need and never fear as many people mc then go on to have healthy pregnancies. I mc'd when i was 24 then had my first son at 29 with no problems. Big hugs to you, take care.