Just wanted to say Hoobley good thinking on the op thing must ask ob if the scolosis could be a cause for that position, i know last ime it wasnt mentioned, only when they tried to get the epidural in.
Andie: i did ask the ob about prep of the perineum as she seems quite a big promoter of epi-no, but she said there is just so little skin to stretch that it wont make a huge difference. I did do some prep before DS, but i think the circumstances had more to do with it than prep but so confused i really dont know. As for the support team family and friends are very much of the "why would you want to go through that again" opinion including DH. ( i think he was more teriified than i was during the whole thing, plus the great lack of sex for almost a year after the birth )
Widdy; thanks for such kind thoughts.