Ok here's another random thought leading on from Jasp's post.

What if your DP does all the reading, research and talking to people.... and comes to conclusions about his birth prefences which are vastly (or somewhat) different to yours.

For example, he decides that his reading indicates that the risk of going more than 41weeks post dates are more than any risks associated with induction or c/section and that he will not support waiting.

Or what if he reads 10 stories about babies who've had bad outcomes after experiencing foetal distress and therefore he determines that a rapid c/s is far more important to him than waiting or asking more questions about the reliability of the monitoring trace.

Would we then say 'bad luck - my body, my choice?'. Is that really fair?
No, I don't think it's fair at all. For instance if, in our case, DW wanted to have a home, water birth, with only a M/W in attendance, I would be extremely p-ed off and it would be a huge issue.

Great question, good work.

I think that ultimately it's YOUR body and YOUR birth experience. I do think that's it's important for husbands to feel ok with what's happening, but they aren't the ones that experience the emotional aftermath if something didn't go well and you weren't given the opportunity to say how it should have happened......
This type of thing is what perpetuates this attitude about blokes being the dopey ones sitting on the sidelines telling the woman to breathe etc. If you want to make it a one way street, I guess you shouldn't be surprised when the bloke isn't all that involved.