Imagine the outrage if some of you mob came across a mens forum where we made the same blanket stereotypes about women being useless with anything practical, mainly suited to kitchen duties blah blah blah.

I'm not at all annoyed, don't getme wrong, but by christ there are some patronising comments in these types of threads.

We're not all disengaged and stupid. I think most relationships have one person who is the seeker of information, and one that goes with the flow. Sometimes, both people are the same. In any event there are stacks of blokes who know as much, or more, than their partners on this general subject.

PS. My relationship is exactly the same as Rouge's.
I didn't say all men were disengaged and stupid Slyder, I asked if they were as informed as the partners they are supporting, and whether some women felt let down because their partners didn't research. I didnt specifically mean men, I meant PARTNERS, or support persons.

I also don't think there have been many - if any - patronizing comments made in this thread, as generally people have been posting about their personal experiences.

I'm truly sorry if you have found this thread patronizing or offensive, but to come into a peaceful and intelligent discussion with guns blazing is not really the way to react, is it?

For my part, I started this thread after helping my sister write her birth plan, and her telling me that she knew she couldn't rely on her DH to support her, which she felt was because he refused to do ANY reading or listen to her thoughts on the matter. She felt unsupported for her last birth, so for this birth she has chosen her DH if he decides to come, myself, and a trainee midwife.