I guess what I'm saying is that I think happy mummy = happy baby is sometimes a very useful reality check for mums who would otherwise torture themselves in their efforts to do their very best and remind them that it's OK to not be "perfect".
Yes! That.

ETA: Danni, if you've been victimised or judged, please report it, so we can act. Or PM the person involved to clarify, it may be a misunderstanding.