I am truly baffled when I come on here sometimes. How can someone say I don't believe in the phrase happy mum = happy babies when you are all on the internet on BB obviously seeking to share your ideas on the net and to have an outlet away from your baby? Whether it is work, socialising, BB, we all have different outlets that make us happy. It is a flippant phrase and it is true to a certain extent. If a mother is truly miserable the baby will suffer. Some things bother some mums more than others, it a balancing act and I am sure alot of marriages suffer if a mother becomes a martyr and puts herself last all of the time. Where will it lead to? At the end of the day the family needs to be happy as a unit and however that happens is up to them.
Did you read the whole thread? I think what you're saying has been addressed quite extensively in the other pages.