After all of that, to me happy mum = happy bub is not a useful phrase. Not only is it untrue, as previously discussed it's a throwaway line that would really be better off replaced with more of a statement of guidance, that still supports a mum who is making a decision that might result in any one of the above variables. And I think that both the mum and the bub's wellbeing have to be taken into account. Otherwise the advice comes off as sounding self righteous and encourages people to be martyrs for their children, when sometimes kids have to get a bit used to not getting it all their own way.

Oh I like that!