I definitely understand that not all mummies are created equal in the resilience stakes and need a leg up and need compromises.

Sorry Maya, but this is an example of what I mean - I see this as an insinutation that by compromising their child's needs to achieve their needs, they're not resilient.

Now I would make clear that I personally am not defensive about that. I believe I'm as resilient as the next person, if not more, for the compromises I have made. I just wanted to point out though, that this is the kind of phrase that gets people's backs up.