Tei,
I have great support from my husband and close family, but having said that I didn't feel that they know how to react and had trouble acknowledging that it was actually a real baby that I have lost, I didn't just have a small operation (D&C) so I should be back to normal the next day. Information for these people to help them understand what we are going thu would be great.

I was sent home 650 km away to deal with it by myself; I have no access to support groups and living in a small town I don't want everyone to know either. That is why this online system is so great for me.

I agree that it doesn't help for people to tell you that so and so had x number of m/c because until it's you it's not you.

I think that I want from my husband and close family is acknowldegement that a baby has died - they are struggling to do this and tend to ignore it. My husband and I are going to plant a favourite tree this afternoon in memory of our baby.

Good luck to you.