:hugs: I'm so sorry for your loss.

When you call to talk to the Obs ask if you can have hand and/or footprints taken if at all possible. That way even if it is too distressing for you to see your baby or if the medical staff do not think you should, you will have a physical memory to keep. I have a friend who had a baby born sleeping at 18 weeks who had been sleeping for some time (several weeks) and while the damage of time and the D&C meant the baby couldn't be held, the staff did manage to get hand and foot prints (they are so teeny and sweet) for the parents. Though they are all a bit smudgy it was a great comfort to the mum that she could SEE her baby had been, had existed, even after her little bump was gone and her bleeding was over.

This is a heartbreaking time for you and i'm so sorry you're having to endure it.



Bx