5 Reasons Your Body Is Better Now That You’re A Mother

5 Reasons Your Body Is Better Now That You're A Mother

For some women, pregnancy may leave little more than the memory as a reminder that they’ve become a mother.

The truth and reality is, contrary to what mainstream media has us see, expect and believe, most women are left with lasting changes to their bodies.

Many women grumble that their motherhood body is nothing like the body they enjoyed pre-pregnancy.

Some women complain that stretch marks snake across their breasts, stomach and hips with no sign of leaving.

Others complain that their breasts simply don’t look as full as they once did, and despair at their now ‘saggy boobs’.

For other women, it is the baby weight that refuses to budge that causes the most grief.

Whatever changes you have noticed, you may find yourself cursing your new mum body with despair.

It’s completely understandable why so many women experience these struggles. Society has played a huge part in feeding us unrealistic images of motherhood for a long time now. But do you know what?! Real is the new sexy. Being comfortable in our own skins and with our ‘gifts of imperfection’ (read some Brene Brown!) is truly helping us feel better about who we are and more lovable.

Embracing the transformational changes in post baby body is a journey within your motherhood journey. An important one, at that. It asks for your care and attention. Even for your gentle affection. Here, we share with you five reasons why your body is better now that you’re a mother, in acknowledgement of your awesomeness and the reals of ‘becoming mum’.

#1: You Made A Baby

This might seem like an obvious one, but it’s important to keep it at the forefront of your mind. You made a baby from scratch. You created a new life, and it was all thanks to your body. You might have read the pregnancy manuals, attended prenatal yoga and spent a fortune on baby gear, but it was your body who did most of the work. And yes, perhaps it shows in places. Maybe there are a few fading stretch marks over your stomach, where your skin stretched towards the end of the pregnancy as your baby grew bigger and stronger. But give your body a break, it made a baby. And, while we’re at it, not just a baby, the best baby ever.

#2: You Have A New Relationship

The new relationship is not the one you have with your baby, though of course that is amazing, it’s the one you have with your body. Probably for the first time ever, you truly understand what your body is capable of. You may have been aware that your body could climb, run, or conquer new skills before, but that’s nothing compared to the feat of growing and birthing baby. As you welcome your baby into the world, you should feel at least a little bit of admiration for what your body can do. Be proud of what your body achieved, and try to focus on this rather than the odd postpartum blemish.

#3: It Tells Your Story

Your body is yours, and yours alone. It is your body and tells the story of your life. From the scar on your knee you got falling over in the playground, to the freckles on your shoulders that appeared the summer of your first love, your body is the roadmap of your life. And now you’ve added a new chapter. The stretch marks across your hips are a reminder of your pregnancy, and that nine month wait to meet the baby who is now your world. You may worry that your nipples are different now, but that’s because they tell the story of their role in providing nourishment for your new baby. Instead of seeing these changes as problems, see them as reminders of that chapter of your life.

#4: It’s Not The Only Thing To Have Changed

Yes, your body has changed, but so have you. Your priorities have changed, your friendship groups may even have changed, and you may have switched careers to fit in with childcare – or ditched the career altogether to provide that care yourself. You’re not the same person you were before you fell pregnant, and that’s ok. You will have witnessed change in almost every area of your life since the birth of your child – from your relationship, your home (does a carpet-effect of plastic toys count as home decor?), your pastimes (aka, napping). You have probably accepted a lot of differences in yourself now that you are a mother, so isn’t it about time you offered the same luxury to your body?

#5: It’s An Educational Tool

Children, even young children, learn through observation. Your child is watching you all the time, seeing, accepting and then copying your behaviours. You are a role model now, whether you like it or not, and so is your body. You daughters and sons are looking to you to teach them about body image, so make sure you do a good job. Don’t criticise your mum tum or moan about your stretch marks, instead embrace your new body. Find things you love about it, like the fact that it gave you children, and make sure your kids hear about them. Your body has the opportunity to teach your kids a very valuable lesson in body confidence, so make sure you don’t let it down.

Love begins at home and with self. How can you love your new motherhood body more today?

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  1. This seriously made me cry! I and the mother of two and I am only 23 years old I breast fed my first for a year and a half and I’m still breastfeeding my youngest which is 9 months I look at myself compared to other women of my age and I see how different their bodies are than mine. Perkier breasts, flatter stomachs etc and i feel so unattractive but this really helped me feel better. Thanks!

    1. That’s very sweet from your part. Hang in there, little by little you’ll get to where you want to get. I feel the same way, but this article is on point.

    2. Being a breastfeeding mom really changes our body. I am a mother of three beautiful girls (ages 7, 4, and 5month old). My two eldest were breastfed and my youngest is too. I did not get fat like other women after giving birth (I wish I had), but I do have stretchmarks and yeah I find it ugly but I just think that these are signs that I am a mother of 3 lovable girls. And that’s what makes it wonderful,isn’t it?

  2. it’s hard to love your ‘new’ body when you lost your baby. all the stretch marks, the sagging breasts and ‘mum tum’ are added painful memories of what you almost had.

  3. Beautiful article. I used weight 125#. With my (first & only) pregnancy I got to 196#. I didn’t worry about how much I had gained. Although it was a healthy weight. My mindset got to a point where I ate everything moderately. It has been 10 months since the birth of my beautiful daughter. I breastfeed, stay active by walking, & constantly been on my feet at work all day. I have seen results. I’m loosing the weight slowly but surely. I’m not stress about it because I know I’ll get it down to 130# give or take another year. Thank you for this article. Forget what mainstream media has us see, reality is feel what’s comfortable to you. Giving a child’s life in our own body’s is truly a blessing from above.

  4. As someone who is struggling with post partum health issues including prolapse and out of control weight loss, this actually made me feel worse about myself. Particularly #2 – I thought my body was strong and powerful, but then pregnancy and birth damaged it, and the road back to “strong and powerful” is longer than I thought. May I suggest adding a point #6 to give hope to those like me, who have come out the other side bearing more than just superficial marks of motherhood?

    1. I agree. I had a long 39hour labour and developed HEELP syndrome, which resulted in an emergency c section. I had to continue to go to the hospital after due to the HEELP the first month. my section scar and diastis recti (which limits even some gentle yoga moves) some 6 months post partum all serve as a reminder of what my body couldn’t do and how it let me down. I can no longer yet work out to the capacity I used to for health reasons related to pregnancy and birth. So my jeans still not fitting does not have that same reassurance that my body is strong sadly.

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