If Making Love Was Treated Like Birth – A Sadly Hilarious Video

If Making Love Was Treated Like Birth - A Sadly Hilarious Video

Oxytocin is the hormone responsible for birth, sex and love.

It’s often referred to as the ‘love hormone’ and plays an important role in these pivotal social interactions.

During birth, oxytocin causes the uterine muscles to contract and it also acts as a sort of natural pain relief, helping women to cope during contractions.

Environment is key to oxytocin production. A stressful environment can restrict the production of oxytocin. To encourage oxytocin production during labour, it is important that women feel safe, calm and supported. This means being surrounded by trusted people, having privacy and the ability to relax.

Sadly, many women don’t give birth in an environment which encourages the production of oxytocin. In fact, if you consider a typical hospital birth, the environment is unlikely to allow for maximum oxytocin production.

Under the bright glare of the hospital lights, with nurses, midwives and other healthcare professionals wandering in and out of the room during labour, it’s not hard to see why some women find it difficult to relax in a hospital setting.

The Importance Of Birth Environment

Of course, some health care professionals are becoming more aware of the importance of the birth environment. Birth centres are cropping up around the world to allow women to give birth in homely, cozy environments. However, not all women have access to a birth centre and sadly many women are still giving birth in settings that may prevent relaxation and inhibit the production of oxytocin.

To show just how detrimental the birthing environment can be, campaigning group Freedom For Birth Rome Action Group came up with the perfect way to highlight the intrusive way health professionals handle birth. Many would argue that birth is more often controlled by healthcare professionals than by labouring mamas, but what if the same was true for the moment of conception?

Conception Stage Fright?

Imagine yourself lying on your back, legs in stirrups, attached to a heart monitor… aroused? No, thought not. Relaxed? Didn’t think so. Could you do the deed with healthcare professionals freely wandering in and out of the room? What if they stopped to comment on your position or technique? Perhaps unsurprisingly, you might find yourself struggling with stage fright in such an environment.

In the tongue-in-cheek video, Performance, actors simulate what might happen if sex was treated as a performance in the way that birth is. The couple in the video are encouraged to pretend the healthcare professionals aren’t they as they attempt to achieve ‘natural conception’. At one point, the doctor walks in and turns the light on, disturbing the couple and immediately tells them to change position.

The video late informs us, “The WHO recommend that women are free to choose their position during labour and birth. Unfortunately, most women are required to lie down on a hospital bed. Episiotomies are only carried out in this position. 70% of women end up with their vaginas cut.”

Throughout the video, the male protagonist can be seen growing more and more uncomfortable. He doesn’t look like someone enjoying sex, instead he has the facial expressions of someone sitting a test they didn’t revise for. As the couple have sex, the doctor counts down for them and quickly scolds the man for pushing wrong. Perhaps unsurprisingly, the couple are struggling to get the job done. After asking for a glass is water, the guy is told that he can’t have a drink, moments later an IV drip is set up to hydrate the guy though he is never given the opportunity to consent to this procedure.

The video later tells us, “Eating and drinking are not allowed for the full duration of labour and birth. There is no medical reason for this… Unfortunately, in most hospitals these interventions are performed with informing and asking for consent.”

Towards the end of the day, the couple are told that they can try for a few more minutes and if it doesn’t work, medical staff will have to intervene and inseminate the woman. That pressure doesn’t seem to help much and by the end of the video, the doctor is congratulating the couple on trying their best and telling them it’s time for the medical team to take over now.

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Last Updated: December 22, 2015

CONTRIBUTOR

Fiona Peacock is a writer, researcher and lover of all things to do with pregnancy, birth and motherhood (apart from the lack of sleep). She is a home birth advocate, passionate about gentle parenting and is also really tired.


11 comments

  1. Oh my lord, I could t stop crying for laughing so hard. This video truly expressed what it is like for women to give birth under hospital conditions.

  2. we are conveniently forgetting how common death during childbirth was before we started all these procedures.

    death during sex has thankfully always been quite quite rare.

    1. Not convenient at all, we’ve listed them in our article, Why So Many Women Used To Die During Childbirth.

      Thank goodness the profession finally decided to listen to that one person who spoke out and told them they really needed to wash hands between patients, including the dead ones. It always is one person daring to speak out and being told they are ridiculous for saying so, and all the others taking offence 😉

  3. Oh dear!! This was funny but so sad its so true!!
    2 born at hospital, said Id never go back, 3rd born at home and if we have another they will be born at home to.
    The privacy, trust and respect given at home! Everyone deserves that!!

  4. Thanks a lot for this article Fiona, is exactly what we are trying to say with this video. The status of women in childbirth has to change … we hope that this video will help.

    Freedom for Birth-Rome Action Group

  5. I love your posts!!! I also am a HUGE home birth attachment parenting advocate! Getting ready any day now to deliver my second in the relaxing and wonderful environment of my own home 🙂 the way the labor and birth process is being hijacked from women is one of the absolute SADDEST things to me… So unnecessary and dangerous! I think what hurts the most is these women have no idea the joy they’re missing by not trusting their own bodies and trusting the process by having a natural homebirth .. and that they are powerful and able to do anything! But they are being brainwashed into believing that hospital birth is the safest and best option when in reality it’s the worst! With the exception of those few cases that actually need true intervention … I also love your article on the cry it out… Complete abuse:( What are we doing to these poor babies? Keep posting great stuff !

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