Early Labour – 8 Tips For A Low Stress Early Labour At Home

Early Labour - 8 Tips For A Low Stress Early Labour At Home

When you’re in early labour, you might be feeling a wide range of emotions.

Anxiety, uncertainty, relief, excitement, frustration, nervousness, or even a little fear – it might be all of those things at once!

Rest assured, they’re all normal and common feelings.

What’s really important is rest and relaxation, and unless you’re concerned about your health, or your baby’s, try to play down any early labour signs, and maintain as much normality as possible.

Labour is exactly that – hard work.

This is the beginning of what will most likely be a long, intense, and exhausting process.

Pre-labour can last for hours, or even days, especially for first time mothers. This is often why you hear ‘horror stories’ from other women, who tell you they were in labour for days.

Early labour is not active labour, but it can be uncomfortable and frustrating – even more so if you allow it to consume you. Rest assured, this article has been written to help you get over the emotional hump of early labour.

Ask yourself this: do you know of any marathon runners who begin their race with a sprint?

Of course you don’t.

If marathon runners were to begin a race with a sprint or bolt, they wouldn’t ever finish – they’d burn out!

Placing too much focus and energy on the early stages of labour can sabotage what could be a much easier, more enjoyable birth.

This is because sleep deprivation and a lack of energy and stamina can become an even bigger issue than the way you’re coping with labour pain.

How Long Does Early Labour Last?

The length of early labour varies between women and with each individual pregnancy.

This is due to many factors, including the position of the baby, hormone levels, how a woman chooses to labour (upright or lying down), and so much more. Some women don’t even realise they’re in early labour, and are surprised to find they’re progressing more quickly than they thought.

Find out what causes labour to start.

For some women, early labour can continue for several days or more, and can be a frustrating and testing time.

It’s important to keep yourself distracted. See if you can think of any emotional reasons why labour is unfolding this way. It might be your own fears. Perhaps you’re not feeling ‘safe’ or comfortable, or perhaps the people around you are making you feel uptight or stressed. The emotions you are experiencing can have a significant impact on your labour.

Two things are known to help shorten the duration of labour:  having an active birth (not labouring on your back), and having a doula to support you.

What Exactly Is Early Labour?

In early labour, the cervix moves to the anterior (front) position, softens and effaces (thins), and begins to dilate.

Early labour is when you’re 0-4 centimetres dilated, after which time labour becomes active – which is when contractions are regular and constant.

In early labour, some women will experience a mucus plug or ‘show’ (in whole, or parts of it) as a result of the cervix moving and opening. However, it’s also normal not to see anything at all until later in labour.

How Important Is This Annoying Early Labour?

Early labour is a very important part of the labour process. It’s not false labour, because your body is working hard. You are making progress, even if it feels like it’s taking forever and resulting in nothing but stress and frustration!

It’s easy to become disappointed when early labour doesn’t step up as quickly as you would like. But your body is using this all-important early labour process as crucial groundwork. This early preparation and dilation are paving the way for you to become fully dilated at 10 centimetres, when your baby will be ready to be born.

Remind yourself that early labour contractions mean your body is working very hard, and building up to stronger, longer contractions. There is no reason to feel disappointed, or that your body has failed you. It’s working beautifully!

Here are 8 tips and suggestions for early labour:

Early Labour Tip #1: Avoid Telling Family and Friends

You’re probably already sick of people asking you whether the baby has arrived yet. So imagine how frustrating things will get if you tell them you’re in early labour!

It’s going to take some time before your baby is actually ready to be born. Telling others you are in labour only serves to heighten the anticipation and pressure. Right now you really need to focus inwards, and forget about what’s going on around you. Dealing with family pressure and stress is like telling your body it’s not safe, and you can’t relax to have a baby.

Ever wondered why a cat will hide somewhere quiet and dark to have her kittens? She knows she will labour best when undisturbed.

In early labour, some women have family and friends making discouraging comments – for example, “What? You’re still going?” or, ‘Gees, that’s a long time to be in labour. Shouldn’t they induce you or put you out of your misery by now?”

In your vulnerable state, you might start doubting your body or your ability to birth well. In the worst case scenario, this can lead to you succumbing to interventions – for example, an induction to hurry labour along (due to everyone’s anticipation getting the better of you), or pain relief to try to make the stress more manageable. These interventions are not necessary when a woman feels safe and protected in labour.

The bad news for a mother who accepts an induction of labour, just to get it over with, is an induction significantly increases the risk of emergency c-section, especially for first time mothers. This is mainly because induced labour is stronger and more intense than natural labour, with shorter breaks between contractions. Even if the mother has an epidural to relieve the pain, the baby still feels the effects of the more intense labour.

The hard and fast contractions can reduce blood and oxygen supply, which over time, can send the baby into fetal distress. This often ends in an emergency c-section as it becomes a serious issue. Sadly, the mother thinks her body has failed her but, unfortunately, this is an all too common scenario in labour wards all over the world.

Read more about induction of labour and the differences between induced labour and natural labour.

It’s important to remember that early labour is not officially established or ‘active’ labour. It can take days to get to that point. So if you can, avoid telling family and friends until labour is established (active labour, which is 4-7 centimetres dilation), or even wait until you have your beautiful baby in your arms. You don’t want your phone ringing like crazy in the middle of a serious contraction!

Early Labour Tip #2: Rest, Rest, Rest!

You might have heard that long walks, or swimming, are beneficial in early labour, but these activities are not always ideal. You might exhaust important energy stores that you’ll need further into your labour.

Pools and baths are not a good idea in early labour, either. Weightlessness works against gravity, and can result in slower or stalled labour. This is one of the main reasons why, if you’re having a water birth, it’s a good idea to wait until around 7 centimetres dilation (which is the stage called ‘transition’) before you jump in the water.

Another reason is that the pain relief is more noticeable when you are in stronger labour. If you want to use water for pain relief, soak under the shower instead. If the bath is calling you in active labour, you can always give it a try, but hop out if you find it slows things down.

On the other hand, if you’re having a very long early labour, and you’re stressed and anxious, a bath can give you a little relaxation, which might help.

If your labour begins at night, try to sleep or rest as much as you can. Yes, it might be hard to sleep if you’re excited, or if the contractions are catching your attention. But you’ll need as much rest as you can for the more demanding stages of your labour. Depleting what energy you have now means you’ll feel exhausted way too early. This can lead to you opting for pain relief, and requiring interventions, because you don’t have the energy to push your baby out.

Early Labour Tip #3: Start Some Projects You Have Been Meaning To Do

Early labour is a great time to have some distractions, especially in the form of projects you have been planning to do. Write in your journal, do some scrapbooking or painting, file away photos or recipes, or rearrange things you have been meaning to for a while. It will make time pass a little faster, and you will have achieved something at a time when you might feel like you aren’t achieving much at all! Even though you most definitely are!

Early Labour Tip #4: Keep Eating and Drinking

Keep up your water levels. That way you’ll avoid dehydration, and have regular toilet trips too, to make room for baby to come down. When you eat, choose foods that will give you lasting energy; carbs are a great option.

Some women say they don’t like to eat prior to labour, because they’re afraid they will only throw up. It’s very important, however, to eat in early labour – for your energy levels, and for your baby. Women will sometimes throw up regardless, due to hormones, and I’m sure most of us would rather throw up food than bile!

Other women say they like to eat spicy food, or curries, to hurry things along. But be warned. If that type of food normally gives you diarrhoea, imagine what it might be like later in labour. The same applies to castor oil. It often often causes diarrhoea in pregnant mothers, and it’s the last thing you want to be worrying about while in labour.

Midwife, Brenda Manning, has a suggestion: “If you don’t think you will remember, ask your partner to remind you to drink at least 300 mls of water every couple of hours, to avoid dehydration, which can result in fatigue and a poorly functioning uterus. Eating and drinking during labour has been shown to reduce the total length of labour by as much as 90 minutes. Eat light, easily digested food”.

Early Labour Tip #5: Stay At Home For As Long As Possible

Unless you are concerned, you don’t feel safe, or you feel you cannot cope at home for much longer, staying at home for as long as you can will keep you ‘off the clock’ in hospital.

By this I mean that as soon as you arrive in hospital, they will be keeping an eye on how long you have been in labour, and if you do not progress as fast as they would like (usually they are expecting about 1cm per hour, which is not very generous) then they might offer you inductions, or other interventions, to hurry things along.

This might sound enticing, but any interventions that are introduced where there are no problems evident for mother and baby only offer the opportunity for even more interventions, and potential complications as a result.

Read our article about the risks of induction of labour to find out about what’s involved once you’re induced or augmented (where labour is sped up). It will mean you can no longer have a natural birth, and the best you can hope for is a vaginal birth. An induction, however, increases the risk of c-section.

Early Labour Tip #6: Make Sure Your Bags Are Packed And Ready To Go

It might seem silly to mention this one; many mums have their bags packed well before their estimated due date. BellyBelly has an article, What To Pack For Your Labour Bag, which is worth a read, and has some tips from new mothers that you might not have thought of already.

Early Labour Tip #7: Keep Yourself Distracted

You’ve probably already planned some things to do in early labour. It’s a great idea to have a chat with your partner, ahead of time, so he can arrange some activities for you. Perhaps you could hire your favourite movies, eat out at your favourite restaurant, have a massage, go out for a picnic, or get your nails done. Anything that takes your mind off things for a while is a huge benefit in early labour.

Early Labour Tip #8: Don’t Feel Disappointed!

If your labour is taking longer to establish than you had hoped, don’t feel disappointed! Your body is working very hard and, if its any consolation, some women find that when they have longer early labour, they have a shorter active labour. The early part of your labour, however, is not in any way a sign of what is to come. The time it takes to get to active labour doesn’t have any effect on the time it takes to get to the next stage.

Remember, feeling anxiety or stress can slow or stall your labour – and that’s the last thing you want! Enjoy this very special time before your baby arrives. You’ve still got a great big job ahead of you.

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Kelly Winder is the creator of BellyBelly.com.au, a writer, doula (trained in 2005), and a mother of three awesome children. She's passionate about informing and educating fellow thinking parents and parents-to-be, especially about all the things she wishes she knew before she had her firstborn. Kelly is also passionate about travel, tea, travel, and animal rights and welfare. And travel.


  1. This is the best article I have read so far about early labor. I think it says everything I need to hear right now! LOVED IT!

    1. I have been searching and searching for some info with regards to this the last few days and this is by far the best thing I have read . Very helpful

  2. This has totally calmed me down,chilled me out and I feel reassured..going to rest and listen to my body instead of feeling like or worry why I’m not in active labour..really good info x

  3. This is exactly what I needed to read and I no longer feel bad about laying down and chilling out for the second stage!
    I became disheartened earlier when midwife visited and said I was only 2cm dilated. This is my second child and I expected the contractions I’d had all night last night to bring me into phase two. It hasn’t and it’s because I need to rest and this article makes me feel like I’m not failing.
    Wish I’d read it before I told family though! Lol 😉

  4. This is a really informative and reassuring article. Having been experiencing the signs and sensations of early labour for 5 days awaiting my second baby, after a very different and much briefer experience with my first (21 hours from first twinges to birth), I have been starting to feel quite frustrated and uncertain and been doubting whether things are actually happening! I am looking forward to sharing this article with my husband who has been equally dubious about me actually being in labour. The not sharing with family and friends bit makes sense but is not so easy when you are relying on them to help look after baby’s older sibling(s) – I have found it a massive help to involve f & f as it is very tiring getting through this prolonged early stage and the uncertainty as to when and the speed at which things are going to take off means having our little princess being cared for by, in our case, her amazing grand parents removes some uncertainty and stress which could potentially hold up the arrival of baby 2.

    Thank you! Sarah

  5. While I have not experienced active labor yet, I cannot imagine it being more difficult than early labor. It’s so easy to get frustrated with yourself and your body. I would trade the physical pain of active labor for the emotional distress I have right now in a heartbeat! It’s so hard to be patient and just relax but what other choice do I have. No point in stressing, but really wish I had not told anyone that I was in early labor, that’s an excellent point this article mentions. Other people asking your progression constantly every hour of the day for days on end is really stressful!!

  6. This is so helpful to me right now I was panicking for a while thinking this baby wasn’t coming but thank you for the article it’s very important and helpful information about the big d day! !♡♡ to ensure that my delivery is coming that’s all I need to know with my other 2 children I didn’t even feel it but now that I’m older I can feel every thing! !good luck to all

  7. I have all lot pain in low back and stomch and legs heart all lot some times I. Can’t move because my pain legs.

  8. Definitely worth the read and encouraging!!! I usually don’t comment on articles but this one was too helpful not too!!! ❤️ Been in early labor for almost a week! Thanks so much!!

  9. Thank you for this article! I’ve been in early labor for the last 16 hours with my second child after being induced with my first, so I really appreciate the tips.

  10. woow been in early labour for the past 5 days and was gettin really fustrated am glad that am not alone and therz actually nothing wrong with me

  11. 37 weeks and been in early labour for 3 weeks, plus in and out of hospital and I’ve had enough! Not sleeping and in pain constantly.. But this article was a breath of fresh air to read… been trying everything to speed things along but now I’m just going to take it easy and relax and let my body do what it’s got to and hope that works..

    1. Awesome! Fatigue, stress and exhaustion are your enemies, especially right before a marathon. Have some nice warm baths, get some massages – follow your bliss, then baby will too 😉

  12. I feel so much better to read I’m not alone. I’ve been in early labour for a week now and still only 2cm dilated. The backache and stomach cramps are getting to me and the stress has really tired me out. Feeling more positive and hopeful after reading. Thank you.

  13. Great article to read. I felt more at ease after reading this. Thank you.
    I’ve been having pain for the past 6 days and was told to “wait it out” at home. I thought that meant the baby is coming soon. I am going to patiently wait for my angel and rest and relax.

  14. Wonderful article! Your words truly calmed me down and help me get back on track with the right mindset. I love how much you understand the process and the emotions we go through! Thanks for this practical and powerful read. The tips are great.

  15. I’m so glad I stumbled across this article. My 2nd baby and this is all making so much more sense. I feel like I’m in early labour right now and going to take your advice and relax and distract myself….to prepare myself for round 2. Thanks so much.

  16. Thanks very much, this article helped me to relax as I’m now 3 days in early labour. I was worried and stressed but now I’m ok, I will just wait for the right time to welcome my baby

  17. I’m not sure I’ve ever left a comment after reading an Internet article before but i felt like I should this time because I really appreciated this article. For over two days now I’ve had labor signs come and go, (also a false alarm a week ago) sending me to the hospital, an hour away, disturbing my sleep, and generally leaving me feeling frustrated and negative. I still find myself very negative at times, but this article has helped me see the need to try not to get too upset, and to be patient. It’s really nice to read something that shows such insight into the emotional struggle we deal with. It’s nice to know I am not alone.

    1. I’m going through this too, and have been feeling guilty about resting when I can. A wonderful article to help lift my spirit – I even sent it to my husband!

  18. Thank you so much for this article. I have been in early labor for over five days and started to feel inadequate somehow being that this is my second child. But determined to have a natural birth i wanted to feel better and know there were other women out there going through the same thing. This article eases my anxiety and feelings of frustration a great deal. Thank you again.

  19. This article is the best I have read, I’m. Currently thinking I’m in early labour as it’s my 4th doubts shouldn’t be there but other 3 were really quick and non of this befor pain thank you so much for a super reassuring article that lifted my spirits rather than making me feel I’m making it up x

  20. Thanks for this,Kelly. I have been at this early labor for 7days, its my first baby.
    I was really anxious before reading this article but am glad to read that its normal. I wish I had not told my sis-in-law,though. she calls almost every hour.
    I’ll relax more and rest well now.

  21. I am currently in this early labour phase and have been for a good 2 days and was beginning to get frustrated that things weren’t speeding up as fed up of the irregular contractions and back pain but reading this has made me feel so much more positive about the whole process and I am going to do my best to relax and allow my body to do what it needs to prepare for the next stage of labour.

  22. Have been in Early labor for 2 days now and was starting to feel like there was something wrong with me as a first time Mom.
    This article calmed my anxiety & stress level and I think I may actually sleep tonight!

    Thank you so much!
    Christine from Long Island, NY

  23. Thank for the amazing supportive article.
    Very clear, very calming. Put me right back in the headspace I would like 🙂

  24. I’m having my third child after 11 years and had forgotten what labor felt like. Both my children were born early so never went to 40 weeks and didn’t experience a prolonged early labor (had babies within 36 hours of first contraction) with this baby lost the mucous plug on Sunday and it’s Wednesday morning now, have had contractions that last 40 secs every 15-20 minutes since Sunday, was getting frustrated and ready to be augmented tomorrow but now am thinking about it. Will try to calm down and let nature take it’s course!

  25. this is the best article so far yet been to the doctor
    yesterday only been dilatet to 1.5 cm the pain comes and go had 2days of pain and today it stopped lost my mucus plug about 2 days ago whas bery stressed feels like Im never gonna delivered on my own naturally. but now I feel better

  26. Thank you so much for this article. I’m a mother of 10 children and this is our 11th child. You would think that I know all of this stuff, but each labor has been different and new. Thank you again; this was informative and encouraging. Been in early labor since yesterday…..So about 11 hours so far??? Wish me luck. <3 <3 Trista.

  27. Thank you-this gave me a bit of relief! I am a FTM, 38.5 weeks, 3-4cm dilated for 4 days, with intermittent contractions (some painful, some not) & backaches. I was so excited at first to hear I was 3-4cm & thought I’d be in the hospital by that night. 4 days later, I’ve been losing hope, & wondering if something is wrong. I don’t understand why no one tells you early labor can be so protracted. It’s not false labor though. People seem to think slow progression equates with false labor, & that causes more anxiety too.

  28. i usually don’t comment on article but, this. now 36 weeks,2nd baby.my first baby EM-LSCS due to cordprolapse. It’s very helpful thanks too.

  29. Such a perfect article!!
    I’m so relieved I thought there was something wrong with me!
    I’ve been in early labor for the past 5 days and really am exhausted
    Especially at the fact that I’ve been receiving 100 text messages asking if his out yet!
    BIG regret telling family
    I’ll be 40 weeks in 3 days so I really hope he’ll be out before then!
    I think I’ll be treating my self to a pedicure tomorrow and just taking it easy until the big day:)
    Thank you so much for this info!

  30. I appreciate this article, thank you! This is my first pregnancy and I am 40+4 and have been in early labour for 10 days. My husband and I were very excited when I first started having “signs” of labour and started feeling disheartened as the days rolled by with no baby to show. It’s hard not to feel impatient going through this long process. For me, staying busy is helpful, even while feeling uncomfortable with pain and contractions. Thank you for all the info and tips in this article! 🙂

  31. Im a first time mom and been in early labor for 4 days now, and contractions get stronger and more painful from my lower back to my abdomen, although still irregular. Been to the hospital twice because of bloody show and painful contractions only to find out my dilation is still 0. It can get in your mind really and will surely frustrate you but thank you for this article as it helped me understand that I am in the right place. I was getting paranoid and restless already having no progress in terms of dilation, even with contractions getting stronger. Its just so hard when family and friends know about it already. My husband and I also had to stay over at a relatives house near the hospital (as Manila traffic during Xmas gets crazy), and this makes it quite difficult to “settle” in my early labor phase. I will try to re focus and change my mindset to get off my frustrations. Really glad to have come across this article at this moment.

  32. thanks a lot for this article, I was getting frustrated plus I had told people I was in labour you can imagine phone calls, now I can relax and wait for my little one,though this 2 days has been the longest

  33. Thank you for this information. My daughter has been in early labor for a day and a half. I think my anxieties are causing her stress. I am going to try and back off and help her relax. This has helped me understand a lot about how long early labor can last. Ty

  34. Very useful information. I am in the early stages of labour as a first time mum. This has given me hope. Thank you.

  35. This is such an awesome article. I am in early labour right now, and I must say this covers everything I want to hear right now.

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