No matter how long you breastfeed your baby, and regardless of whether your breastfeeding journey was easy or challenging, there comes a time when breastfeeding stops.

If you think you might be coming to the end of the breastfeeding journey for you and your little one, you might be curious to know what happens when you stop.

The World Health Organization recommends exclusive breastfeeding for the first 6 months of your baby’s life, then to continue breastfeeding, with the addition of solid food, until 2 years and beyond.

When to stop breastfeeding is a personal decision, based on the unique needs of each mother and baby. It might be something you both want when your child reaches a natural age to start weaning, or it could be mother-led weaning, due to breastfeeding difficulties.

Regardless of how and when weaning occurs, many mothers experience changes they didn’t expect.

Lots of mothers are unaware that these changes are completely normal.

Let’s look at exactly what happens when you stop breastfeeding your baby.

What happens when you stop breastfeeding suddenly?

When you decide to stop breastfeeding, weaning gradually is the best approach.

When you stop breastfeeding quickly there can be adverse effects.

Some of these could be:

Breast engorgement
Blocked ducts
Mastitis
Breast abscess
Emotional changes
An unsettled baby.

In some cases, a mother might need to stop breastfeeding suddenly due to a serious illness or hospitalization, or because she is taking medication that is not compatible with breastfeeding.

If you need to stop breastfeeding suddenly, there are steps you can take to make the weaning process easier:

For your own comfort, hand express or pump a small amount of breast milk to relieve engorgement, when needed. Do not aim to drain your breasts of milk as your body will replace whatever milk is removed
Wear a firm fitting bra. Do not attempt to ‘bind’ your breast as this can lead to blocked ducts; gentle pressure and adequate support can help if you are feeling engorged
Use cabbage leaves or cold compresses to relieve engorgement and help to decrease milk production
Comfort your baby. Children breastfeed for comfort as well as to relieve hunger, so make sure there are still plenty of opportunities for cuddles or give your baby attention in other ways.

Sage tea might help you wean more comfortably

Some mothers find consuming sage (e.g. in the form of a tea) helps their breast milk to dry up.

You can find sage tea at any health food store.

It’s important to remember that herbs can act like medications, so speak with a healthcare provider before taking any herbs.

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‘I used this tea to help reduce my milk supply for weaning my 3-year-old. He struggled with constant ear infections and was unable to wean earlier.

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How long after you stop breastfeeding does your milk dry up?

It’s common for breastfeeding mothers who have completed the weaning process to find that they are still able to hand express a little milk.

For some mothers this can continue for a couple of weeks after their children have stopped breastfeeding; for others, it might be years.

In this fascinating case, a woman was still able to express breast milk 11 years after her last baby.

How long it takes for breast milk to dry up completely after weaning varies from mother to mother.

For mothers who have breastfed frequently over a long period of time, it could take a little longer for their bodies to adjust to no longer needing to make milk.

If breastfeeding stops when your breasts are making plenty of milk – that is, when your baby is feeding often – it can take a long time for your breasts to reduce supply and eventually stop producing milk.

If breastfeeding ends when your breasts aren’t producing much milk – for example, for an older child – your supply is likely to adjust more quickly.

Breast milk production works on a supply and demand basis. The more milk is removed from your breasts, the more (or less) milk your breasts will make.

How can you dry up your milk supply without getting mastitis?

When you first stop breastfeeding, your breasts will want to keep producing the amount of milk they are used to producing.

Stopping breastfeeding gradually allows your breast milk supply to reduce gradually over time. This helps minimize the risk of engorgement, blocked milk ducts or mastitis. If you have started weaning by simply feeding your baby less often or having shorter nursing sessions, your body will respond better to making less milk.

On the other hand, if weaning occurs suddenly, you are much more likely to experience engorgement, blocked ducts, or mastitis.

You can read more about mastitis in BellyBelly’s article Mastitis | Causes, Symptoms And Treatment.

When you are trying to stop your breasts from making milk, removing as little milk as possible is important.

Gently massage and hand express a small amount of milk to relieve engorgement. You can use a breast pump if you need to. The key is not to drain your breasts until they are empty.

The emptier your breasts are, the faster your hormones will work to start filling them with milk again. If you remove just enough milk to make you feel comfortable, your breasts will not signal your body to keep producing large amounts of milk.

Read more about how to dry up breast milk in BellyBelly’s article How To Dry Up Breast Milk Naturally | 9 Easy Tips

What to do if you develop a blocked duct

If you develop a blocked duct, it’s important to remove milk temporarily (e.g. with hand expressing), to clear the blockage. It will also reduce the risk of developing mastitis.

Likewise, if you develop mastitis, temporarily removing milk is important to reduce the risk of an abscess. Once the blocked duct or mastitis has cleared, you can stop removing milk and just monitor your breasts.

If you are unable to relieve the blocked duct through gentle hand expression, talk to a lactation consultant or the Australian Breastfeeding Association for advice on the steps to take next.

Over time, your supply will reduce and eventually milk production will cease.

How long after stopping breastfeeding do hormones return to normal?

When your breastfeeding journey ends, you might feel upset and teary.

Some mothers might not experience these emotions but, instead, find they are more irritable or anxious than usual. These mood changes are the result of hormonal changes from weaning.

When you stop breastfeeding, there is a drop in the levels of prolactin and oxytocin in your body.

Oxytocin is the famous ‘love’ hormone involved in birth, breastfeeding and even orgasm. It’s not surprising that a sudden drop in oxytocin can also cause a sudden drop in your mood.

Breastfeeding also creates a physical and emotional bond between a mother and her child. Regardless of your baby’s age when breastfeeding ends, it’s not uncommon to feel a sense of sadness, as a very special time in your life with your child has ended.

It’s important to remember, though, the bond you have with your child goes beyond breastfeeding. You can continue to enjoy physical and emotional closeness with your child, despite weaning – for example, with hugs, skin-to-skin contact, babywearing or bed sharing.

Usually, the feelings that are related to hormonal changes settle after a few weeks. If these feelings are severe or continue beyond a few weeks, seek advice from your healthcare professional.

You might like to read BellyBelly’s article Post Weaning Depression | 7 Tips To Help.

Your menstrual cycle could return

Along with the emotional changes weaning might bring, changing hormones will also affect your menstrual cycle.

For many mothers, their periods don’t return while they’re exclusively breastfeeding. If this was the case for you, it’s likely your menstrual cycles will gradually return to normal once you stop breastfeeding.

This does not mean you cannot fall pregnant while breastfeeding. You can still get pregnant.

Read more in Belly Belly’s article Can You Get Pregnant While Breastfeeding?

There’s a well-accepted form of birth control known as the Lactational Amenorrhoea Method (LAM).

LAM is only effective under the following conditions:

Your baby is 6 months old, or younger
Your baby is exclusively breastfed, with no supplementary fluids or solid foods
Your periods have not returned.

Do nipples go back to normal after breastfeeding?

Your breasts and nipples go through an enormous amount of change throughout pregnancy and breastfeeding. You might be wondering, ‘Will my breasts ever look the same again?’

After stopping breastfeeding, the milk-making cells in your breasts will gradually shrink, making them smaller in size. Some women say their breasts look or feel empty at this stage. As time passes, fat cells will be laid down again in place of milk-making cells, and you might find your breasts regain some fullness.

Many women find their breasts usually return to their pre-pregnancy size, or thereabouts.

And, if you worried about saggy breasts, don’t be.

You can read more about this in BellyBelly’s article Saggy Boobs | 7 Facts About Breastfeeding.

While breastfeeding, you probably noticed changes in your nipples, too. As your pregnancy progressed, your nipples darkened and your areola might have increased in size. You might also have noticed little bumps that weren’t there before; these are called Montgomery glands. Many women find these bumps decrease and their nipples lighten a little in color after they stop breastfeeding.

Like all changes related to having a baby, it’s easier to accept a ‘new normal’ than try to ‘get your body back’. Besides, your body didn’t go anywhere; your body made you a beautiful baby.

Instead of beating yourself up because your body looks different, congratulate yourself for the amazing things your body has achieved.

Carrying, birthing and breastfeeding a baby is no easy feat!

The end of breastfeeding

The end of breastfeeding can bring about a multitude of physical and emotional changes.

Some changes can be surprising, but knowing what to expect can help make them seem less daunting.

For some mothers, the end of their breastfeeding relationship with their babies can be a time of sadness.

It’s just like any other major milestone in your child’s life. You welcome the future but, at the same time, a part of you grieves the loss of your child’s dependence on you. Although it can be really hard, this is a normal part of motherhood.

Whenever possible, gradual weaning can help minimize any physical and emotional changes you might experience.

You can read more about this in BellyBelly’s article Weaning From Breastfeeding | A Gentle Approach.

No matter what your breastfeeding journey entailed, or how much breast milk your baby received, be proud you were able to provide your child with an optimal start to lifelong health.