I agree with Trish - I think the authors feelings are extreme, but I do see where she's coming from. I found the adjustment from one to two children very challenging. But to be honest, I think that was mainly due to my headspace. DS1 was an IVF bub, we'd lost our second child and despite knowing I was at risk of doing so, I bought into the whole 'won't life be rosy and beautiful once I get this baby home safely??!!' Well it was hardly rosy with the sleep deprivation and trying to juggle a newborn and a toddlerI got angry at DD for waking the baby who did not sleep well to start with, and I had moments I'm not proud of but I NEVER loved her any less. In fact i have very strong memories of sitting on the couch bawling and Dh asking me why. I said "because I miss her so much" he said "but she's right here?!" and I said "not for me she's not. she's right here for everyone else but not for me because I'm always with the baby'. It was very hard.
I can really relate to what she said about your 'baby' suddenly seeming so big and grown up when the next child arrives. I have had that experience both times and it is sad for me! But you learn to enjoy the change in dynamic, the toddler taking their new place as a 'big boy/girl' and welcoming the new baby of the family.
My DS1 was also booby crazy and he did NOT wean during pregnancy and I am still tandem feeding him and his 7mo brother
Good news is going from 2 to 3 has been a breeze
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